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writes: Since im the quiet one out of all of them and they are all so confident they sometimes gang up on me. I give up trying to stand up for myself because i never win anyway. I tried going off to find a different group of friends and i managed but then they started getting like possessive and wanted me back and some of them actually came looking for me to bring me back, but now they've started ganging up on me and i can't go back to the other group of friends. I also have some other friends who aren't like the best of friends with the friends who gang up on me but are like best friends with me, and they are always nice to me and always listen to me when im sad. But the friends that gang up on me are in my form and most are in all my classes so there's no chance i can avoid them. What should i do?The friends that gang up on me do things like; kicking my legs(and it really hurts) and are like happy and have a signal thing whenever they hurt me and get seriously moody if i don't tell them things like who i have a crush on or when i try to go off with my nicer friends.What should i do?,please help
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reader, anoms  +, writes (17 May 2009):
 oh this sounds really horrible, ok well it doesnt sound like much of a contest between your old and new found friends, so why dont you tell your new friends whats going on and that the other group are herting you and what not and maybe they will help you stand up to them if they are rude about your desision to stay with your new friends, infact the best thing you could do is ignore them and when they come to grab you away from your new friends you should tell them out load "im not interested in talking to you!" or whatever comes to mind and theyl probably get embarressed and most likely get the point, just dont sit on the fence! choose who you want to be with and stick with it okay
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reader, Lina319  +, writes (17 May 2009):
 Ok your so called best friends, are NOT your best friends. Real friends dont make fun of you, kick you, or force you to spill out secrets, they seem absolutely retarded to me. They are probably just using you for entertainment. Break the ties you have with them, slowly, avoid them with caution. Keep your distance, and start a new alliance with the other group of friends you have, the ones that seem to be there when you are hurting.
I know you said that most of your "good" friends are in your classes so you cant avoid them, but in all honesty, if you really dont want to be in contact with them, you can do it, you just have to find the strength and courage to do so.
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