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writes:Just been on a first date, with a nice guy. He said things during the evening about 'if we do get to know each other' making me think he possibly wants to. Then the way it ended was he walked me to my car and said, 'I'll let you stew on it and decide if you want to meet me again' so I'm unsure what to do. Does it mean if I want to go out then he will say yes? What should I do next?! Thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2013): When I like a guy and I know he likes me I make it clear that
I won't tolerate games. Just ask if you want to hang out and if not goodbye.
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reader, SensitiveBloke +, writes (6 November 2013):
 He doesn't sound like a very polite person. If he wants to go on another date, he needs to work a bit harder and show some manners!
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (6 November 2013):
 yeah I agree he's waiting to see if you want to see him and he's wishy washy about it.
I'm betting if you call he'll see you a few times and figure out if you are going to sleep with him or not. and if you don't I'm betting he'll be gone sooner rather than later.
I'd stew on it till he calls you but I would not hold my breath.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (6 November 2013):
 I agree with one of the anon females who answered here...I think it's a lazy half assed attempt by him to make you pursue him.
He probably wasn't 100% about seeing you again so he's more or less asked you to do the chasing to prove you are into him...it's flaky behaviour.
Most men, if they met someone they really liked would absolutely NOT play this game and would just make the next date there and then.
He's probably been rejected before and now he wants to sit back and see who comes to him.
I think I'd have to risk another date just out of curiosity, but if you come away feeling 'Does he really like me or doesn't he?'...then it's probably best to drop him and move on to date someone else.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2013): Sounds like you do want to meet him again! So go ahead, call him up, and set up a date!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2013): He is doing the thing that I particularly dislike when it comes to a guy. He lets you do all the action. It's this lazy kind of men who just like to sit back and wait for a woman to call, make all the arrangements.
He basically wants you to call him if you deside that you want to date him. He doesn't make another date right away to show you that he is interested but he wants you know to invite him on a date. It's up to you, but I would just leave it at that
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2013): I think that if a guy didn't find you attractive on ANY level he wouldn't have said this. So he probably is perfectly okay with seeing you again. If your question is "does he really mean he's interested or is he just a player?" that would be hard for anyone (let alone third party) to answer after just one date. He may be but he may not be.
So the crux of the matter at this stage is - are you interested in him? If you want to see him again - I (personally) would suggest another date and then take it from there. He probably finds you sexually attractive at least
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2013): maybe you just questioning yourself to much..if u like this guy you should make a move and invite him on second date,after all u don't have anything to lose...maybe he is just unsecure about himself so he left decision in your hand should you meet again or not :) good luck
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