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writes:right. i recently kissed this girl, my best friend, and it wasnt the first time, we always talk about it and have a laugh but everytime i hear of a boy she has been with i instantly hate them.i dont fancy her, and im sure as hell not a lesbien.but does anyone have any advice on getting her out of my mind, but sometimes i even find myself materbating over the thought of me and her kissing, am i sick?please help.
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reader, Konaa  +, writes (24 June 2008):
 Nah! You're no lesbian. A lesbian is a woman who is sexually attracted to other women. But this was only a kiss. The reason you hated the guys she's been with was because you didn't want anybody else to have her. But not because you're a lesbian. Just like somebody else answered, you're just at the age where you're exploring things.The masturbation is normal, too. You were just excited about what you did, you know. You didn't really like it. I hope I've helped...somewhat ^_^
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2008): You're at an age where exploration is common. It doesn't mean you're lesbian or bi or straight - only you will know and you will discover it as you grow older.
I have thoughts like that too, and there are plenty of girls who have done the same thing as you have.
But remember, there is nothing wrong with being bi or gay.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthankyou sooo much :)
you all helped immensly :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2008): Maybe you have a subconscious crush on her and don't want to. It's quite normal to be confused and things, especially if you think you're not bi/gay and kissed a girl, naturally your mind will be quite confused about the whole thing. When you kissed was it while you were sober or were you both drunk? I suppose that could make a difference.
I agree with what Queeny said, date some nice guys and if you don't fancy this girl then you will probably forget about her pretty quickly. And time will tell I think.
Keep us updated!
xx Hope xx
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reader, Queeny  +, writes (28 May 2008):
 You say you hate the thought sweetie, maybe your best friend is the one that is lesbian... if you don't like it then tell her.. but if you do enjoy the intimacy with her....... well....you may be probably tending more towards that direction..You like and trust your best friend that could be the reason you replace her as a 'boyfriend'.. you could try dating gud guys then find out if you are really lesbian... on the other hand if both of you aren't and just having an adventure... its healthy if you don't get that far... it is normal to masturbate and get wild fantasies out of it. some gals that are not lesbians also fantasize two galz sexually intimate... just find out by dating guys..
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reader, lotus mama808 +, writes (28 May 2008):
 Aw, sweetie! You are not sick! I am a bi sexual woman, and was in your situation at your age. I was in denial that I was in love with my best friend, and I felt disgusted with myself for thinking that way. When I turned 17, she confessed that she had feelings for me too, and she had a boyfriend! We all sat down and talked about it, and I learned that there was nothing wrong with the feelings I had. Her boyfriend was supportive and let us have our thing even though they were together (and it really strengthened their relationship). I'm 2f now, and still love her, and have had many sexual relations with her, and I enjoy exploring my "feminine side" with other women. I have a male partner and 2 kids, and he dosnt want to share me with anyone, male or female, sexually. I respect that, so I have stayed monogamous, but he and I both know that I will always be bi sexual, nomatter what. I am turned on by females, and I dont see that as being sick or wrong. Many other people on this board will agree with me there. You are fine, nothing wrong with you.
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