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writes: I broke up with my ex bf to be with another man.my ex was no good for me he treated me very bad, but I am still very sexually atracted and turned on by my exmy new man is very good to me treats me like gold and would give me the world if he could, but he doesn't turn me on nearly as much(not even close). I have had sex with my new bf but I am not really in to it. I do it for him because he seems to like it and because he is so good to me. He makes me happy and sex seems to make him happy. So I do it sometimes I almost feel like I have to.what do I do about this? Did I make the right decision?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2005): I think you have jumped into another relationship far too soon before you have had proper chance to get over the last guy. It's hard on you and it must behard on the new boyfriend if you cant give him 100% and ur mindis elsewhere. Have you thought about going cold turkey...giving yourself time to get over your ex and then moving on? Don't get me wrong sometimes getting with someone else after you break up with someone can work and with time you may realise that the guy you are now with is just so much better.....but remember you said it yourself your ex was bad to you, so focus ur attentions elsewhere no matter how sexy u think he still is.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2005): First off, calm down. Everyone who splits up with a partner whom they had a good sex life with will feel turned on to them for a long time after the split. Your ex treated you badly, you need to sit down and think, who would you prefer to be with for the rest of your life, your ex, or your new boyfriend? Probably your new boyfriend. When you are no longer attracted to your ex in this way, you'll find that you are a lot more turned on to your new boyfriend. Remember, treat your new boyfriend as nicely as he treats you, otherwise he may feel left out and leave you. You're feelings are totally natural, and I wouldn't be surprised if your ex feels the same way, even if he doesn't show it. Your feelings will take time to recover, but I promise you, they will in time.
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