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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:hi all could you please help. my boyfriend and me have been together for 13 years we have had our ups and downs and seperated for 3 years but stayed together, we have a 12 year old daughter and i have asked him for more children for years but he says its not the right time, i say we have been together long enough an no matter what we still are together. i am now 30 and he is 33, im trying to make him see that time is running out, he wants kids but is scared. i want him to know there is nothing to be scared of. Can you help? Thanks all, its a desperate situation xxxx we love each other and are not seperating by the way. Reply to this Question
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (24 April 2010):
 You are not married, and had been separated. He's scared that the relationship will not be strong enough to provide for a baby. You must have had kids at a very young age. He's scared to relive that anxiety as a young dad. Tell him you are more mature and financially able. Tell him whatever reasons that made you broke up would not happen again. You also have to understand why men don't want kids. It means less sleep, less freedom, less sex, less money, less social life. Although it's a man's instinct to sow wild oats, it's not so much in his nature to nurture kids as much as a woman. Sure babies are amazing but they grow up to be unruly, rebellious children running around the house.
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