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writes:7 months ago, i moved to the Dominican Republic with my mom. i fell head over heels in love with a boy and we were " together " for 6 months, just last week i find out he has had a girlfriend the entire time we were " together " to make matters a lost worse i'm 2 months late, i took a home pregnancy test, but because of where i am located they do not have updated tests, it is very very old fashioned and i don't trust it, because even though it came out negative i'm 2 months late, which is very unusual. I have talked to the boy about it, plenty and he claims that i'm a " slut " and i sleep with every guy, when really he is the only man i'v slept with in 7 months, so he is in fact the father of the baby, if i am pregnant- i will be going to the doctors this week sometime to figure it out for sure, but at this point i have no dout in my mind he says that he loves me and wants to be with me but cant be, i don't understand at all, and i am trying to get over him, but i cant raise a baby alone, i need his help.to make matters EVEN worse, his girlfriend is ALSO pregnant 2 months..i also do not believe in abortion, i think it is cruel, so i would indeed be keeping my baby..so i'm left heartbroken and possibly pregnant at sixteen.my questions are :how do i make him believe its his baby?do i forget about it, and do it alone?is keeping the baby at sixteen a complete mistake?thanks for any advice.xxxxo .
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker  +, writes (14 June 2010):
 You're in a soup. You're also probably pregnant with the baby of what appears to be a completely worthless man.
Weight your options. If it's legal where you are, you should consider an abortion. If not...
You know, this is really a situation where your mother is the only person who can really advise you. The final decision will be your own.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2010): i dont know what the laws are like where you are but i disagree with what the other person said. in the U.S by law he would have to give you child support even if he is underage. you can know for sure it is his with a paternity test. i dont think you should do it alone. he helped create the baby so he needs to help raise it. you could take him to court for it if you had to. having a baby that young is hard no doubt. i have a few friends who had babies young. and it was very rough on them but they love their kids alot. its not impossible to do at 16 just harder. if you dont want an abortion, then you could try adoption, if you decide to not keep it. goodluck i really hope it all goes ok.
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reader, rivi +, writes (14 June 2010):
He is not going to be a dad to this kid - you will get zero child support from him, and he's already dumped you anyway by the sounds of things.
I don't agree with late abortions but at 2 months there's not really much there : you are just in time for the abortion pill to still work.
If you had the kid it would ruin your life and maybe the kid's too. You need to rethink and urgently. Talk to you Mom.
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