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writes:I have been married for 11 years with 3 kids.About 4 years ago i met this guy and it was like we were made to be together. It took him over a year to kiss me and 6 months later we made out and that has been all we have done for over 2 years we have not had sex. He lives with his girlfriend and me my husband. I love my husband and can't leave my kids but I have fallen in love with him and He really cares for me. i know it's wrong but when I am happy.Help me. What do I do? Reply to this Question |
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reader, Ginalolabridga  + ♥, writes (16 December 2008):
 You say you love your husband so why do you want to go?
Can you and your husband not try to rekindle some of the spark that has gone from your marriage?
I am thinking of the 3 kids here as well so much mess will be left if you up and go.
I am glad you have not had sex with him because then it just becomes complicated as your not doing that can you not walk away forget him and try with your husband?
You say he cares for you but don't say HE LOVES YOU!!
I am sure your husband does though and your 3 kids they all love you.
I think your being distracted with this guy and i truly believe if he was out the picture your marriage would have a chance of survivng where there are kids concerned i would always advise you to try and save your marriage unless you were with an abusive partner which your not so could you not try and make a go of your marriage try and inject some love in to this and use your energies to focus on what you can be doing to put it right because it seems your the one with the problem that has stepped outside the marriage your husband has not given you reason to do this so therefore you need to be the one trying to repair what you have done it is just a thought i would like to think you could save it but the choice is really down to you i hope this was of some help to you take care.
Gina
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2008): You have to decide either your husband or your boyfriend. its not fair to your huband and most of all your kids if you dont decide soon itll hurt more when it all comes out. and have you thought that maybe you cant leave your husband cause deep down inside you know its wrong think about it.
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reader, petina1 +, writes (16 December 2008):
 So he won't leave his girlfriend, you won't leave your husband. Theres been no sex yet. I think if the time comes when you take that next step, then the complications will come with it, they always do. Just be very careful, because if you husband does find out about any of this, then you won't get that choice as to not leave him, he could well leave you. No one can tell you to stop seeing this other man, you are both consenting adults and he is bringing something in to your life that you maybe don't get with your husband. I just hope that you don't get hurt by it all, because the day may come when a big decision has to be made and are you ready for the consequences of what you are getting in to. good luck, hope this helps.
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