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writes: Hiya.. i'v been together with my boyfriend for 3 and a half yrs nw.. We both study in the Uk and are 21 yrs old.. However he's gone back to our home country this summer.. The first 3 days that he reached there he was always in contact with me.. via sms..After that he suddenly changed.. I thought okay maybe its his first week back with family so he's excited and all.. but this kept going on.. he hardly ever textd me.. if i txtd he'd reply like a day later saying he's been busy running errands and all.. he's not even working so i just wonder what he's been upto..so one night after a few weeks i decided to tell him how i feel and told hm that i felt we'r drifitng apart and all... i expected him to call back and talk it out with me, but instead he sent me a txt sayin that him and i have our whole lives together (he keeps telling me we'r gonna get married someday)and our time will come, and that for now he wants to spend time with his family and friends coz he might not see them again (god knows why). He's never been like this..I really hate the company he has, his best friend is my best friend's ex and the guy is a player.. He sleeps around with so many women and although many people tell me that my boyfriend isn't like that i just can't help, but wonder. He's never cheated on me, but I just hate the way he's treating me these days. What should i do? Should i just back off quietly and let him enjoy his summer with his friends and family or?? Please helppp!!
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reader, Sam21 +, writes (8 July 2006):
Sam21 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanx a lott jadzia.. Guess u'r right. It is our first experience apart, so i had no idea he would act this way, but he's never cheated on me so I guess I just have to try and trust him. If only he'd stop being friends with that horrible friend he has, I would be so much more at peace, but that's just wishing for the impossible. Thanks a lot for your help, i really needed it! xx
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reader, Jadzia1127  +, writes (8 July 2006):
 Your only real option is to trust him or your going to drive yourself nuts.
If this is your first experience apart then his actions might be completely normal for him. If you require more maintenance when apart then you need to consider a different relationship where your needs are met.
If this is not the first time you have been part and his actions are completely different then you might want to keep your ears and eyes open and hope for the best.
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