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writes: I was seeing a guy for about 6 weeks and we were having a great time. For the first five weeks he was texting me all the time saying I was the one for him, but then all of a sudden the texts stopped and he said he just wanted to be friends! I didn't chase and i left it. It has left me very confused as he was full on and very keen and then not. I feel like there must be something wrong with me and I must be unworthy of love. How do I get over it and get my self esteem back? Please I need advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2006): Firstly, he came on WAAAAY too strong, when he couldnt have been sure what his feelings were. You dont fall in love in 6 weeks and even though teenagers seem to think you can it just doesnt work that way. He realised somewhere along the line that the relationship wasn't right for him, or (and probably more likely) got scared that the relationship was moving very fast, which if he was sending you all these texts professing his undying love was his own fault.
It's not your fault. I get the feeling your a teen (I'm guessing between 15 and 17), and in these years people like to try different things, but some lie to their partners of only a few weeks and say they love them. This just doesnt happen, and in the end the relationships are based on lies...which ultimately dooms them.
Dont let this one put you off, the next one will probably better. My advice is that if a boy is coming on really strong right at the beginning, while it can be sweet, it's best if you take things nice and slow.
Good luck.
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reader, smeedle  +, writes (25 May 2006):
 Get over him and move right on, he was just playing with you, he had no intention of having a relationship with you it sounds like he was just saying all the right things to see how far he could get with you in the shortest possible time.
The just want to be friends thing translates to "bored of you now and not got the guts to tell you"!!
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