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writes:i am 16 and have been having sex with my boyfriend for ages but he wants to change it and try tying me up and adding spice to it but i feel like it means that normal sex with me is boring and thats why he want to spice it up. am i just being stupid ? should i do it ?
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reader, Georgia13  +, writes (16 July 2009):
 well the spice sounds kinda wierd 2 me but i think you should meet him half way, buy some sluty laguray and maybe some fuzzuy handcuffes lol he will se that your trying and meet u half way 2
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reader, Zabih +, writes (14 July 2009):
There is nothing wrong in spicing up in the short term, in the long run you will regret having sex from such young age and no-one will enjoy having sex with you....
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reader, mytwocents +, writes (14 July 2009):
 Maybe this will make me sound like an old man, but I never understand when someone as young as 16 says they “need to spice up” their sex life.
That’s understandable when you’re 41 and you’ve been with the same person for 13 years. But 16? There are people on this website every day agonizing about kissing someone at 16, never mind "spicing" things up in the bedroom.
Just to make it clear, it sounds more like he wants to exercise a FANTASY with you than to “spice up” your sex life. Since what he’s asking for is pretty harmless, you could go along with it as long as it doesn’t completely freak you out.
But I would ask him why he wants this in the first place. You should know if he's otherwise happy with you physically. If can’t give you a satisfactory answer, don’t do it till he can. He should pay a little price for getting what he wants.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2009): yes you should spice things up it feel so good to have a romantic sex
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reader, quarky +, writes (14 July 2009):
 I very much doubt that he thinks your boring in that area so don't worry about that! Blokes are usually quite happy with the basics as far as that's concerned.
But there's nothing wrong with a bit of spice now and again-as long as you both enjoy it-which I'm sure you will.
Why not try new things and enjoy each other more-as long as you both know the limit and don't do something the other clearly does not want, there's nothing wrong with that!
Try making suggestions too -there is probably something you/d like to try?
Just make it fun, don't take it too seriously, set up a 'safe word' if need be-and just enjoy!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2009): hi im christina.
well basically if hes been having sex with you this whole time he must like it but he wants a new experience..tying u up is pretty kinky lol..but maybe i can give u some ideas to spice up ur sex life..and u kno think of this as being better for u ;]...
1.tease him[show him little parts of your body]
2.and if ur into oral..take 2 pillows,stick one under his chest,and one under ur hips.gives more height and it feels better.
3.do it standing up.either u lift ur legs or have him bend his knees a bit...inless ur petite then it should be no prob lol
4.try having sex in the shower instead..rub his bak and have him make u all sudsy lol
5.sneak up on him like when hes sitting in a chair or couch and jump on his lap and kiss him he should like that =]
good luck
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reader, cherry cherry boom boom +, writes (14 July 2009):
Well every one has there own erotic fanticies he just wants to try his out on you so I guess that makes you specail. If you don't believe me then ask him. this ya girl, peace.
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reader, cherry cherry boom boom +, writes (14 July 2009):
Well every one has there own erotic fanticies he just wants to try his out on you so I guess that makes you specail. If you don't believe me then ask him. this ya girl, peace.
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