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writes:Ive been with my husband for 12years.I can not have kids.I do have 2 but not his. He really wants kids. so 5 months ago he went out and met this woman now shes pregnant. now he tells me he must leave me because she wont keep the child if he keeps seeing me. so he says he wants a family so he is going to move out wit her. but he doesnt want to loose me. I love him very much what do I do? I dont want to lose my husband. Reply to this Question
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (17 December 2011):
 Why don't you want to lose your husband ? He is as good and as useful to you as a bad case of pneumonia !
I think you are still in shock so not able yet to understand how disgustingly selfish ,cruel and exploitative he has been and is being to you. He really wanted a baby, he wanted it very badly....oh poor darling, so whenever he wants something he is free and justified to do anything he likes to get it,and everybody else can go f*** off ?
So, if I want money very badly, - let me see, I'll just wear a stocking on my face , bring along a gun, and go rob the bank downstairs. Hey, I am entitled to do that : I want money SO badly , why shouldn't I get all I want ?...
Really I am surprised that you can have patience and stomach for a man with this kind of mindset. I hope that pretty soon you'll be able to see that holding on tight to your husband would be the same as holding on to a hamper of smelly dirty socks- serves no practical purpose, and it stinks up all your house.
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reader, Oncetherebeforethenagain +, writes (17 December 2011):
My husband and I split up and he went back to his exwife and then playe me for months but I loved him and fought for him and got him back but frankly in your situation that he messed around on you is unacceptable , if he really loves you then he should stay with u but if e sits there and wants a kid with a mother woman and can't decide then u r worth more than that. I don't believe that she should abort the child but I wouldn't waste the time dear if he can't decide for himself if he is not happy having two children and has been with u that long he is not a man he's a childish boy who doesn't know what he wants there's more to life then suffering over a boys hormones and emotions. Im praying for you but in my opinion of the situation, he had an affair and got evidence against him to prove it and it's sickening he still is messing with her I wouldn't hurt your self anymore enjoy your children and enjoy your life without him.
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reader, Pisces +, writes (1 August 2008):
Pisces is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for all the support,and to one writer no I'm not ok with what he's done.But I love my husband and my marriage is worth saving I've come to realize,
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2008): it seems that ur really okay with what he's done, so just let him live a double life!!!
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reader, Wild Thaing  +, writes (30 July 2008):
 For the sake of your children think of the example your husband is setting, and think about the example your response sets. When the going gets tough he runs away. Now he's being squeezed by both you and his knocked-up mistress. And he wants to have it so he doesn't have to make a tough choice. And you are considering letting him off the hook by enabling his behaviour.
What do you think your children will take away from your response to your husband's behaviour?
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reader, Pisces +, writes (30 July 2008):
Pisces is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI also must let you know there is a 10 year age difference.And he keeps telling he wants his child but he doesnt want to lose me either.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2008): I would happen to agree. A man that chooses to be with someone else will find a different excuse in the future to be with someone else for another reason. Let him go and wait on God to send the man that needs to be in your life in your life.
I am sorry to hear that, but this is probably something that he should have shared with you before getting married. If he did and yall agreed that he would be fine with loving your children as his own, he is definately a BUM.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2008): Let the loser go. He's one extremely poor excuse for a man.
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