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writes: i need alittle advice. ive known a guy for around 5 years we got on really well and were pretty close, we ended up sleeping together for around 6 months, we've remained really close since we decided to stop sleeping with eachotha. he met a girl about 12 months ago and has ended up havin a child with her, i was really happy for him. 2 months ago he told me that he doesn't want to be with the mother of his child because she's not me and he always imagined having his first child with me, now he wants to meet up with me but im scared of what might happen,i do love him but i don't want to be the person who split up his childs parents, but i don't want to lose him as a friend.what should i do?
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reader, howtocope +, writes (7 December 2006):
i was in this exact same situation....i said these words exactly...." dont leave her because you want to be with me leave her because you dont want to be with her." some guys do it and some guys want there cake and eat it too. If he means well he will end up doing it and you two can hook up if not then it wasnt meant to be and if he gets angry with you then he isnt in it for the same reasons you think he is
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reader, Scarlet +, writes (7 December 2006):
 If he doesn't want to be with his current girlfriend, he needs to split up with her without getting you involved. You shouldn't ever feel responsible for him leaving her. If he wants to be with you, maybe you should both leave it for a while, and see how he handles being away from her, and if he gets through it ok, then you can look at starting a relationship with him.
Jumping from one relationship with a baby involved to another relationship doesn't do any of the people involved any good. I hope this helps and wish you all the best x
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