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writes: HiIm a student and I was having a long distance relationship with a guy from back home for a couple of months. When I came back from uni I was really pleased because I would be able to see him more. I saw him the day after I got back. We had a really good time. But then he kept making excuses saying that he wanted to be left alone cos of his broken ankle. I said fair enough. We arranged to meet the following week on friday night. We spoke in the afternoon to arrange to meet at nine o'clock. But he never text me so i rang him to say i was on my way. He had his phone off. Then he text me later to say he was sorry and that he felt too ill to c me. Then while I was out he changed his mind and said to come over. I said I would after my night out. When I arrived he had his phone off and so I couldnt be let in (he lives in an apartment).The next day I said lets go our separate ways and for him to leave me alone. He agreed. But then he wanted me back. I said no. But when I changed my mind today and rang him he said lets just be friends. What is going on in his mind? Is he doing this so he can have his freedom over xmas while im away? Or is he confused about what he wants? Or was he just using me for the convenience? Should I get back with him if he rings? Do you think he was cheating? My friends think he's lying somewhere along the line. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2007): Don't ever see him again..i had this problem to!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2005): Dear, sometimes when guys play these games like this, girls have to ask themselves 'why', without retreating into confusion. Common sense is, he's just 'not' that into dating you anymore. Kick his ass to the curb and go out there and find a real man who respects and honors you. When a man adores a woman, nothing stops him from seeing her and contacting her, missing her..he treats her like gold. You ain't getting this from this fellow so that should be a big red flag. Listen to your friends..they are standing back and watching him make a fool of you and it pains them to see this. They are being honest with you..he is definitely not a keeper, hun. Dump him and get on with life. Take care and happy Holidays, hun. Keep happy.
Hugs, Irish
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reader, kellyO  +, writes (23 December 2005):
 Hi dearie, dont bother yourself much trying to figure this guy out.
He has been acting uninterested since you have been around and anyone would be suspicions. Its so obviously he has been looking for excuses not to see you while would you want to be with him anyway. He says he has a broken leg and so?how come he doesnt invite you over to see him even if he cant make it. when people are in love they try to see each other all the time.
Again, you go over to his house and you couldnt get in after he told you to come over. He couldnt even leave his phone on so you could reach him.
I say drop the jerk. He did all that to annoy you so you could drop him. I bet he didnt even mean it when he said initially that he wanted you back. if he indeed meant that then why did he refused when you said ok i let's give it another chance.
Move on with your life, you indeed deserve someone who will be eager to see you and not be dragging his leg.
Go out with friends and enjoy your xmas.
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