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writes:Hi, I know this is probably going to be a stupid question in the long run and i kinda think i know my answer i just want others advice also, good or bad i will take. so my fiance of 3 years has asked if i would be interested in sleeping with another woman, which i have done in my teen years and have thought about within the last year or so, but he wants to be involved and I'm not sure how to go about it with him. I'm afraid that he may get too involved and I'll be left sitting there or something. The idea sounded good at first and we started discussing it and he even mentioned our friends (who are a couple) to even get involved with it. I'm afraid it's going to not ruin our friendship but OUR relationship... but then again it could help us in parts that need help...?????
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2009): I have to say that I have often thought about about brining another woman in my marriage but I am also afraid that it would ruin things. The best thing I can tell you is if you decide to do it set ground rules on what can and can't go on.
In my opnion though it's not worth even trying it, if he gets mad if you say no then that shows you don't need to be with him. Hope that helped out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2009): It concerns me that you have only been with your fiance for 3 years and he appears to want more 'spicing up' of your sex life. What is your sex life going to be in 10 years from now??
You do realise that having a 3-some is going to ruin your relationship with your fiance??
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2009): I believe that sometimes a fantasy is a fantasy for a reason. It never usually works out the way your mind is seeing the fantasy, so it can be a tremendous let down and create problems.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2009): From a guy- if this is your fiance then he is telling you in so many ways that he doesn't see himself being monogomous in marriage. He doesn't picture being with one woman the rest of his life. You need to be okay with this and set rules if you agree to it because he'll want to sleep with other women and some women are okay with this as long as they know who it is.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2009): You and he need to have a heart to heart. You two have to decide on the boudaries and expectations. You also must discus you fears so you are totally aware of the partners feelings. Once this is done and you find some one to bring in, all those issues must be dicsussed with them. No surprises.
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