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writes:I have a seven month old son, the father left me when I was seven months pregnant my heart still feels for him and I just found out that he is seeing another woman and I am heartbroken. I don't understand how he can just let go of us so quickly he hasn't even tryed to rekindle the relationship for the sake of our son to give him a loving stable home that he deserves. I would like to know what steps I can make to win back his love?
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (9 December 2010):
Take a good look at your situation...Do you really want a man like that around your son???
I get that you feel lonely, unloved, and your values and trust have just gotten trashed.
I always say "bad things happen for a good reason." You may not see it now...but let me help show you this.
Him walking out on your son could be the best thing for him. How?? If you got the right guy in your life, who loves your son as his own, then you son could a really great dad.
What happens if the father comes back, your son gets to know him, gets attached to him...add 10 years...then he decides to leave again...then what??? You brought him back for that???
What about you? He comes back, but is cheating on you, and you find out years later. yep, you brought that back into your life. You may think it hurts now, but it can hurt a whole lot more.
It may look bad...but there good reasons. :))
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2010): Simply, don't bother. It will never be the same.
My wife pushed me out for another man, even though we had kids. I never treated her badly, she just got bored. So she took up a man for a short while for a test, then wanted me back. I just see the kids, she is nothing to me now. Even though she's been crying at my feet. She ended it, it's over.
You should do the same. Don't stop him from seeing his son, but don't take him back into your heart!
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reader, birdynumnums +, writes (9 December 2010):
 Why would you want him back? He has proven to you what kind of man he is! Cowardly, fickle, unsupportive, immature, irresponsible??? What kind of stable home can a man such as this provide? You are better off creating your own insular little family of two than putting any more thought or energy into a man who doesn't deserve the privilege of having a son; let alone a wife and son.
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