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*ellilove2000
writes:Thank you for you support through your advice.I have been with the guy am talking about for almost 4 years. We moved for 1 and half year and without any reason he left me. I never went into any relationship again because I loved him.After 3 years he came back and being stupidy with love I accepted him back cos I was still in love with him.I was happy that he was back into my life again but it was sadness. He talks to me any how, calls when he feel likes calling. When he needs money I give but when I need some he says he doestn't have. Having sex with different women behide me, drinking and does not even go to church. There is somuch tears in my eyes as I write to you cos I still love him.He once told me he will not spend on a woman he is not married and truely there is nothing in my life that I can say this guy helped me toaccomplished.For the past 6 months he relised a change in my attitude towards him cos I wanted to quit the relationship.He became troubled and enquired from me why the sudden change and that he has relised that I want to leave the relationship.I told him am not interested in the relationship any more b'cos of the horrible things he put me through. He begged me to forgive him and that he will see to my happiness and that he doesn't want to lose me because he loves me. He then introduced me to his parents. His sisters also came in to plead on his behalf.Even though he is making me believe that he has changed, I still don't trust him. I love him very much but I don't trust him.He doesn't want me to leave him. Any time I try to leave him, he breaks down with emotions. Am unable to leave when I see him hurting and then I change me mind.Because I don't trust him, am always geting angrey with him. I wish he will let me go and not see him hurting.Why is love like this. I know I will never stop loving him but will I grieve in future when he marrys me.I don't want to grieve. I need the strength to walk out of his life even when I see him hurting.
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reader, Oblivia  +, writes (30 August 2007):
 I think that he doesn't show you the respect you deserve. He is playing you around, are with others behind your back and is hurting you in many ways. I don't believe you will be happy with this man and from you write, it sounds like you believe the same.
Go with this feeling. If necessary, put up in writing why you need to leave him and read it every time your love for him makes you weak.
The break-downs he is having when you tell him you want to leave, I think they are pure manipulating behaviour from his side. Also getting his sister to talk to you is even more manipulating.
To love someone doesn't mean you have to stay around being miserable for the rest of your life. You deserve so much better than that!
I wish you all the luck!
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reader, XXpussycatXX  +, writes (30 August 2007):
hey hun
first thing first a rlationship is built on trust if you dont trust him then you shouldnt be with him...because it not halthy for the two of you...but h soundd like a dick to begin with to be honest with you but now he has introducd you to his parents to me that means he is genuine and that he really cares about you...hopefully you will see this... please be strong and think what you doing you may be throwing a good thing away but on the other hand it may be the best thing you do...you need to speak to him and tell him your issuses instead of getting angry so then he knows what going on in you head
hope iv helped babs
take car and wish you all the luck x
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reader, XXpussycatXX +, writes (30 August 2007):
hey hun
first thing first a rlationship is built on trust if you dont trust him then you shouldnt be with him...because it not halthy for the two of you...but h soundd like a dick to begin with to be honest with you but now he has introducd yoy to his parents to me that means he is genuine
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