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*orah
writes:hey people my heart is really broken. my bf always dumps me and then we return. but now he wants a break. all of this is because i wanted to go out with my friends. is there any chance when somebody asks for break that they can return to each other? i really love him please help
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reader, norah +, writes (27 September 2007):
norah is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTHANKS ALL FOR UR ADVICE BUT I FEEL SO BAD NOW HE BREAK UP WITH ME AND HE DONT WANT TO SEE ME AGAIN AND THATS KILLING ME I RATHER DIE
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reader, gingertiger001  +, writes (25 September 2007):
Sounds to me like he's truong to control control you by breaking up with you when you go out with your friends.
He's subconsciously making a link between your friends and breaking up with him, hoping he'll win.
I agree with the other post, he's being immature and needs to be told. If he can't accept that you want a life, with him able to be part of it, he needs to go.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2007): My first bloke was so immature as well, he would split everytime i went with my pals and come back days later. I used to take him back like a stupid fool and even felt guilty about going out with my mates. Sorry, but he needs to understand that you still have your mates who will probably be still around when he isnt. Let him know that you love him but you are not solely 100% his property, it doesnt work that way. If he persists with this childish behavour then pack him in. Life is too short and stop letting him get away with it. Be assertive.
take care
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reader, heavenly_angel  +, writes (25 September 2007):
 I really feel where you are coming from. I actually found this site and posted my own question waiting to be approved with pretty much the same situation. That is one thing about men I dont understand. My ex was like that to. He would always go out fishin with his cousin or brothers. Do this or that but the second I went out with my sister he was heated or my friends for that. Now we are not together because he feels he needs his time as well. Its hard I know. Every day since friday when it happened I feel lost and empty. I feel like my heart is shattered and he is no where around to pick up the pieces. I wish I could give you the exact remedy to make it better but all I can say is take it one day at a time. He has asked me on several occassions how im doin and i would answer, im miserable im lost I cant live without you.. All I would get was..Okay. Well when he ask me now I tell him im doin much better. I forbod to let him kick me while im done. Do you have any family memebers or close friends you can turn to. I know my sister has been my rock. Maybe keep a journal. Helps ease the pain a lil. Also you might wanna put away all the things you have to remind you of him so it doesnt hurt you as much to see it. Try and stay positive.. Try to keep in mind if it was meant to be.. It will be if not than god has something else better in store for you. Take care.
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