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writes:My (ex)boyfriend about 3 days ago. We were about to make 10 months. We had a great relationship until Sept. We work together and our relationship slowly faded out. He told me he needed space to want to miss me. I tried to give him space but we work together about 5-6 days a week. It was very hard. As time went by, I became even more miserable. I would stress out about our relationship and become emotional which sometimes led to an arguement. I feel like I contributed to the breakup because I kept constantly pointing out the problems in our relationship. He had very low self-esteem as a boyfriend. He felt very bad.. he would blame himself. Blaming himself lead him to self doubt his ability as a boyfriend. We had figured out, the major problem in our relationship was us working together. He was supposed to transfer to a new location in 2 weeks. 3 days ago, he broke it off with me because he couldn't take it anymore. He didn't want me to go thru so much pain if things didnt end up getting better. He thought he wasn't going to become a better boyfriend. He had no hope and no confidence at all. He said I was perfect and that I deserved someone better than him. That was something he always said when we first went out.In my opinion, he didn't give it a chance. He gave up very quickly. He so calls "loves" me but yet he breaks up with me. I feel a little unappreciated because I did soo much for him. I did everything I could to help make his life better. I got him the job with me and now he's about to make manager position making almost double than what he is now. I just feel like I wish he could have waited until things got better. I felt like, he didn't know how to handle that we were going thru a rough time in our relationship and just threw away months of happiness.We had agreed for me to deactivate my fb while he keeps his. He immediately put his status to single and deleted every album I was in. We had plenty of pictures together in his profile album but, for some reason, he keep 4 pictures of us. Im not thinking too much of it but I'm also wondering why. I knew he was gonna try to get rid of all trace of me to make the breakup easier on him. My opinion, I know he will miss me.. whether it's a week or two or ever more. It depends on him whether he will act on it and try to get me back or he will just let me go. I gave him the option before we stopped our last conversation... Later, if he decides to get back with me, I would be willing to give it a shot, but he would have to prove his worth to me.
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reader, Ven +, writes (17 October 2010):
I'm sorry, I know your situation must have been really hard.
You need to not stress about it. Do your best anyway. Use this time where the two of you are separated to work on yourself. Boost your own self-esteem, go out and try something you've never done before, get yourself to the point where you feel health and happy as an individual.
If he comes around you both will be better for it. If not, you will already kicked yourself into getting over him.
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