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*iabia713
writes:So me and my ex have been in this hot and cold relationship for about 4 months. we both have the same feelings for each other because he told me he fights his feelings for me back. and when i asked why he said because he knew it wouldnt work because he didnt date exes. i had asked him if we could hang out beforeand he said he didnt think we could because he's bipolar with especially me. we talked about getting back together in the future and he said possibly when he's ready to commit. but then im like if you dont want us in the future then just tell me and ill go. but he says that i ask for predetermined answers and he just cant give me them when he himself doesnt know. however when i tell him we both want to get together and you want me like i want you he never denies it. it kills me. then i told him to think about it and he said that he honestly thinks theres more out there for him than me. and i basically told him if he thinks that then why does he consider us still? he says because he has a gut feeling that me and him will end up together. so basically what it comes down to is that hes gunna go out looking and when he doesnt then hes gunna come back right? usually your gut feeling is right and mine is that hes gunna come back. it just makes me furiated that he does this because he wants me but then he acts like he doesnt. however like hours after i sent him a text saying that when he realizes that his gut feeling is right and when he wants to talk about getting serious then text me or if he just wanna talk he can too. and stuff. so after all that after he was opposed to hanging out then he sent me a text hours after i sent that sayin when you wanna hang out gimme a call and maybe if im not busy we can do something. when i asked him a day later why is it okay for us to hang out now he said. idk honestly i dont think you should pick at it nor think of it. see what i mean hot and cold? idk what to do i love him but it hurts me when he does this and it kills me to know that he wants us to only think stopping it is him being indecisive about what he wants. im afraid if i cut all ties hell forget about me and we wont be able to rekindle our relationship however at the same time i know he will regret losing me because it will be hard for him to find someone who loves or cares or does everything for him like the way i have. i just wish hed realize that sooner than later.
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ciabia713 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks you and i agree just his idiotic bipolarness kills me. but i know i don't need him and i can do better than him and when he comes back it will be to late for him.
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