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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:What do you do when you and a man just CANNOT be anything but significant others? There is no "friends" step where we are concerned. It is all or nothing.He wants to build a relationship with me again, but he says he doesn't want to jump right into it. He wants to stay friends.I CANNOT do this because we all know he is much more than just a friend to me. I told him I cannot be friends with him if he continues to flirt with other women the way he does. It hurts me too much.He says he does not want to jump into a relationship.I said either stop flirting to have a chance with me or let me continue walking away.He stubbornly insisted we could be friends. I stubbornly replied it's never happened and probably never will.In the end he couldn't make his choice and that was enough for me.Did I do the right thing?Either way I'm miserable.
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reader, bg +, writes (1 September 2008):
I've dealt with this before on the behalf of a female friend. Her boyfriend had thrown her on the "back burner" in order to chase other women while having her easily accessable as a fallback.He toyed with her so many times that I ended up removing him from the equation myself. I can't say for sure if your significant other is the same, but consider this:you love him. Can he feel the same about you if he's distracted by other women?
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