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writes:Last night my boyfriend of over a year broke up with me. Honestly, our relationship didn't start off on the best foot (he cheated on his ex girlfriend with me) I know, I know that's not good. He broke up with her right away though. All of a sudden last week he tells me about all this guilt he has about it so I told him that sometimes confession can make you feel better. He agreed to it and it actually went fine and she wasn't upset, but he said he was still feeling bad. He said he realized he feels negatively towards me and that he sees me as the girl that saw someone she wanted and stopped at nothing to get it even though he had a girlfriend, he wants to shake that image of me but he can't figure out how. I want him to change how he feels and get back with me but obviously I can't say or do anything. What should I do? Should I hope that he might figure stuff out or just forget it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2010): Hard pill to swallow because he is right. You knew he was in a relationship. You stopped at nothing to get him and you knew that his gf would be hurt. He reads you like a bbok. Sadly you cannot change the 'image' of you because it is not an image is it, it is a reality. His morals too is questionable. You see you both are wrong here. Tou both cheated and got each other: in the end was it worth it. Cheaters very rarely stay with each other in the end. This is a reality. They just cannot function as a normal couple. And I think he has found this out.the basis of your relationship was wrong and he knows it. I find it strange trhat you have no guilt feeling, that you do not acknowege any wrongdoing and that you just accept the cheating as part of life. Your bf has woken up and realosed hi wrongdoing, why can't you.
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reader, raiders +, writes (3 May 2010):
 well I think he is being a hypocrite because he was the one in the relationship. He was the one that cheated and you had no commitments or owed her any loyalty. He should not be throwing rocks and you should point this out to him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2010): Unfortunately what he sees you as is what you are, someone who didn't care he had a gf. Of course it's not all your fault so he could be trying to blame you in his mind for ruining something he might regret leaving
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