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writes:I met this guy about two weeks ago through my best friend. as soon as we started talking we got along so well it was crazy. we talked for ours at a time and he even said 'how is it possible that i have only known you for 2 weeks but we talk for so long..' there was one problem however, he had a girlfriend. he reassured me many times that he does not like her at all. i found out later that the only reason he was still with her was because her friend had recently died and felt guilty about breaking up with her right away. he constantly firted with me, complemented me, and teased me (in a cute way). when we hung out with eachother he held my hand and, flirted so much, and took every opportunity he had to just be near me. after this had happened the most recent time he did not answer my text message, as if he completely ignored me. i really do not understand how it can seem that he likes me so much when i am with him (i can tell by his eyes) but seem as if he doesnt care when we are not together. ??
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2008): okay.. i am the girl that wrote the original question..
i just wanted to say that you guys helped me soo much when i was confused. but i figured out shortly after that he is going to break up with his girl friend he is just waiting for teh right time to do so. he doesnt want to hurt her more in this bad time. which i guess is nice of him.
i do agree that guys do say what you want to hear and im sure he has done that with me. i am not really expecting a relationship out of this i just want to have fun with him and get to know him more and who knows what will happen in the future.
and the reason he didnt text me back was cause he neevr got my text message so i think it was just a misunderstanding and he thougt i didnt text him. (oops..it goes to show that you shouldnt jump to conclusions.)
thanks so muchh
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2008): I was in a similar situation when I was about ur age.
The guy told me he really liked me & hated his g/f he was then going back to hers at nite to have sex with her too. (I don’t know if she ever found out about us. But I found out he is still with her & had a baby with her in the time I was with him so he obviously did like her.)
Guys have a habit of telling u what u want to hear!!
I obviously cant say that this is happening to u for sure but in my experience of guys this guy is just enjoying the attention off of two girls & is trying to keep both of u happy so he can have u both.
Who’s to say there isn’t a third or maybe even forth girl he has going at the moment?
If he dis-likes he g/f THAT much he would not have gone out with her in the first place or leave her no matter what the situation.
Give him an ultimatum tell him he either leaves his g/f or stops being flirty with u.
If he dose nether forget him…don’t even give him the time of day!!
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reader, MorganRenee +, writes (13 August 2008):
 When you are not together he may be with his gf...or thinking...I thought the same way about the guy I'm around now...at first bc he was talking to 2 other girls....he got rid of one and is with me so much that the other girl doesnt really get any time with him. If he's in that type of situation it really helps to give him a little alone time...bc sometimes when you meet someone who catches your eye....and you have a gf or bf...you'll say you cant stand them or they do this and this to get on their nerves bc it's really disrespectful to some people and offends them when you brag about how great they are....but if he really doesnt like her....you should give him time....personally if I was in his situation I wouldnt hold it out so long bc that will make it worse
***Missy***
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