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writes: I am 15 and my boyfriend is 21. We started going out and we really didn't ask the whole age question. We got really close and that's when I asked him how old he was. We had sex but I told him I would rather wait because it is safer. He respects that and has not even attempted to tempt me. I really love him and I am sure he loves me by the way he acts. Before me he cheated on girls and did drugs and alcohol. Since then he has completly changed and is constantly doing nice things for me. Is it okay to be with him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2007): im the same but im 21 and the boy im seeing is 15 at first i thought no its wrong but i couldnt help my feelings at the end of the day you both like each other and its your life so go for it dont worry wot other people will say
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reader, mystify +, writes (31 December 2005):
 hi , my guy is 8 years younger than me so to i feel strongly in favour of age gap relationships although if any of my guy friends in their 20's were invovled with someone under the age of consent i would loose some respect for them, but it sounds like you have a close friendship, which is a lovely thing to have.
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reader, Racky +, writes (30 December 2005):
 hi
this guy seems to really care about you and treats you with respect and how you would like to be treated, i have a lot of respect for him accepting that you are not ready for sex, and i also think you have made the the right decision not to have sex as you are only 15 and the legal age is 16. However you both seem really happy together and with the whole age gap it should not be made out as an issue. there is 8 years between me and my boyfriend and it has never caused a problem and we been together 2 years.
all the best chick to you both
racky
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reader, GLforever +, writes (28 December 2005):
 The age difference should not be an issue. My answer would be the same whether your BF was 15, 21, 31, or 41. What really matters is respect. That he does nice things for you is great, and I hope he continues to do so. However, if he does not treat you respectfully, them he is not worth your time. The age difference in your relationship does not give him justification to talk down to you, belittle you, or act like he is somehow better than you.
Disclaimer: I write this from the perspective of an adult male who prefers to hang out with teenage girls rather than with adult women. You deserve to know this, but your judgment of my advice shouldn't depend on my age or the age of my friends.
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reader, Tinkz  +, writes (27 December 2005):
 If you don't have a problem with the age then what other people shouldn't matter, i'm 3 years older than my boyfriend and i have never been happier. My uncle is 20 years older than his girlfriend and they make each other happy, they even have a daughter together.
If he treats you the way he needs to and he has infact stopped his habits then go girl.
But bear in mind you aren't leagal yet and your parents may just press charges against him so handle the situation carefully with them and make them understand how you feel about him.
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reader, Virginiaac +, writes (26 December 2005):
Just how long have you two been going out? Get some experience of life before you commit yourself to any one person.
I think you are fooling yourself that this guy is now a changed person. Only time can tell you if it is OK.
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (26 December 2005):
I think that if you and him are both happy then YES it is ok, in fact great that two people who care for each other so much are together.
You are assured that sex won't be an issue, so thats good. He seems to really make you feel great and has repsect for you. As long as he isnt taking advantage of your young age then I think its all ok.
Age can be a big issue for some couples not just because of sex but because of the levels of maturiity they are at, like they might not have much in common and stuff like that, but I'm going ot have to assume that you and your bf do, otherwise you would not of gotten together right.
Good luck and I hope it all goes well for the two of you.
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