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writes:I'm very confused here, this guy I met last monday we got along so well and both seemed really interested in each other. It was nice to just talk to a guy and properly get to know them, without them slyly trying to creep on! Well, we ended up talking for hours and somehow talked about us dating and going out just us two which i was really happy to know he was interested. He initiated basically everything, from introducing himself to us going out. So i'm more confused as to why he has stopped talking to me and given me the cold shoulder! I don't know whether it is because a couple days after i met him, he asked me out at the last minute so i was thrown off and couldn't meet him. Since then he hasn't said anything to me?He is a very nice and sweet guy, he came across so decent and a gentleman that i don't know what an earth i've done, or what has happened here for him to not seem interested anymore? Can anyone give me insight please!? Reply to this Question
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (27 September 2011):
 Uhm ...everybody can talk like a gentleman, then though they have to act like one.
I am suspicious about the fact that he called you last minute to go out, this is just rude, except maybe for closest oldest friends who can dispose of any formality. But a guy who wants to ask you out on a date, heck, you'd think he could think it in advance and devote some special time to it, - not just give you a last minute phone call ( like when one looks for a replacement for canceled plans ).
Said that, and in case instead he just got shy or felt brushed off, you don't have to sit by the phone wondering. There is absolutely nothing wrong if you pick up the phone and call him to reschedule.
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reader, pinktopaz  +, writes (27 September 2011):
Like Ciar said, if you didn't suggest another time to go out, then he might have just assumed that you're not interested. He might have taken it as rejection rather than you weren't ready to go out at the last minute.
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (27 September 2011):
 Have you tried contacting him and gotten no response or were you waiting for him to contact you first? When you declined the second meeting did you suggest another day or was it just left at that?If it's the former, he might have assumed, by your declination, that you were no longer interested in meeting him again and made up some tale to get out of it. If it's the latter, he may be expecting you to get back to him since you were the one who couldn't make it the second time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2011): He cud of got shy, or he actually is a creep and you were a last minute booty call - when u couldn't go out with him he found another lady who would so now he is chasing some other skirt.
Guys can act like a gentleman (key word being act) so don't be too eager to believe everything he says/does. If he truly is as sweet a guy as he came across as, time will prove his worth. He had no problem initiating before he will initiate again.
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