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writes:I cant tell if this guy at my salsa class fancies me... lol. Doesnt sound like the biggest issue of the week but, I've been hung up over a guy for a long time and this is the first man i've looked at since, so I want things to go ok... A week ago i started this salsa class and this man there seemed very cheery and friendly towards me, he was a beginner just like me. When we chose partners we sort of magnatized to each other because of us being the same level and i felt like we clicked - there was chemistry. He picked me everytime after to dance with him (even though we're meant to change), and said he had the best partner, and that i was a good partner. When i put my hand on his shoulder, i said, 'i think thats ok', and he said 'yes, well it feels nice'.. lol. he asked if i would be going to an additional practice session on sunday- i said yes. However, when i went he wasnt there, i felt really disappointed. He was there again for our normal session monday; and seemed pleased to see me, he'd gelled his hair lol.. and asked me if i went to the session on sunday.. he never gave a reason for not going. He was very giggly and smiley and happy dancing with me, and kept picking me as his partner.. very flirty. I watched him with a few of the other women and he seemed pretty friendly with them too though.. but i felt as though he was maybe a bit more smiley with me. When we danced together-- there was a dance move that required him to stop me- by holding my shoulder at the end of a move, and instead of just stopping me he pulled me right up against him, he repeated this move a further 4 times. (we were doing freestyle). At the end of the evening he seemed keen to know when i was going for another practice session the following week and keen to talk to me.. but he seemed friendly in demeanour in general.. and generally quite nervous. I'm not sure what to make of him.. he's about 38.. (so quite a bit old for me i know..) and he doesnt wear a wedding ring.. he came to the salsa alone. We havent talked much lol.. but, i cant work out whether he is attracted to me. I am 5'6 (the same height as him :S) , blonde size 10. Please! i would appreciate your thoughts x
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reader, c_keller  +, writes (31 March 2010):
People recognize body language, you're secretly giving yourself away every time you're even happy to see him. As women we constantly give ourselves away even when we don't want to. We are a romantic breed, we can't help it lol
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIm confused how would he know i fancy him? Ive made no moves... at all?
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (31 March 2010):
 Some guys are pigs who flirt with girls and set them up for disappointment, just for an ego boost. I don't want to set you up for disappointment, there's a good chance he's one of "those" guys... who just wants an ego boost, but, I could be wrong. You could get to know him and become his friend... if he's married, avoid being anything more than a friend, of course. If it turns out he's single, and you like him, just ask him out. Be casual. Don't come on too strong or rush anything.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2010): I think you're reading too much into the situation. He's an older man who probably knows you're attracted to him and just enjoys the ego boost. Sorry to seem harsh but Ive seen this before and I think you're setting yourself up to be hurt. I would just enjoy dancing with him and leave it at that.
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