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writes:I have started seeing this guy and I absolutly, no doubt about it really like him. he says he likes me too but...theres always a but,he says he doesnt want a relationship with anyone and that I shouldnt hold my breath, though he keeps on talking to me and texting me and whenever we're together you'd think we were an item.need some advice here...I really like this guy x
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reader, kirra07  +, writes (19 October 2010):
Like the previous posts say, he's looking for a friends with benefits. Or maybe just a friend/hang out buddy. I see this happening to so many people around me now. The guy says he doesn't want to give the wrong impression, that he just wants to be friends, but then calls a lot and texts a lot and wants to hang out a lot. Acts like he might be interested, if he hadn't just said he wasn't. So the girl thinks there's hope, he might be playing hard to get, or is just confused and afraid of getting hurt, etc. But he's made it clear, he doesn't want a relationship. So find someone else.
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reader, xanthic  +, writes (18 October 2010):
 He wants to be friends with benefits, i.e. he's interested in the benefits of a relationship (sex, basically) without having to put in the effort one requires, which leaves him free to play the field and date whoever he wants while keeping you on the side.
It sounds like you're already quite attached to him, so I wouldn't suggest this arrangement. It would never develop into anything more, and you'd be setting yourself up to get hurt in the process. Find someone that wants the same things you want and is willing to date you properly, not treat you as a convenience.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (18 October 2010):
 He's looking for you to be a friend with benefits. If that's not what you want, then you should move on. He is making his intentions clear, so it will not be his fault if you get hurt.
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