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reader, Bitterlysweet +, writes (11 August 2012):
 It means you're scaring the shit out of him. Whatever yoy're saying or doing stop it! You're scaring him, if a man is intimated by you he will let you, if he can't manipulate you or control you he'll get away, BUT if he tells you that you scare the hell out of him then you're in some serious problems. That simple.
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (11 August 2012):
 I think this could mean many things depending on your situation. For me, it has always meant that a man was intimidated by me and/or felt like he could not control me in one way or another. Some men are scared by women who have a strong sense of themselves and their sexuality and who know what they want out of life. They are also intimated if you are highly independent and strong-willed.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (11 August 2012):
 Thanks for the opportunity to translate this bit of "manspeak" for you....
"you scare the hell out of me" means that a guy has learned that he will not be able to make you one of "his girls"..... with the consequent availability of consensual s*x with you.... so he is priming you to CONTINUE putting out for him, whilest HE is looking elsewhere, for a woman who will NOT "put his feet to the fire" in exchange for the se*ual favors that he so wants.....
YOUR reaction to "you scare the hell out of me" might well be: "Well, honey, I'm glad to hear that you're a bit intimidated by me.... and that you recognize that I'm NOT going to put out for you until/unless I have reasone to believe that you are going to be COMMITTED to being nice to me....."
Good luck....
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reader, babyzbird  +, writes (11 August 2012):
 It's hard to tell because you didn't give any details but usually it means that you are scaring him away.
That's not always a bad thing like Abella mentioned...
Anyway, the best advice I can give you is to give him space right now.
Good Luck! :D
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (11 August 2012):
 Depends on the context, but maybe you are trying to hard to 'get him'. You could scare him a little more by asking him for clarification.
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reader, Abella +, writes (11 August 2012):
 You may be more assertive than he is used to. You may have more confidence than him. Or he may see your as feisty and a challenge. Or he may see you as a woman who will not put up with nonsence and so he knows that if he gets involved with you that you expect him to always tell it to you straight. There will be no fudging and no lies than you will tolerate. If he wants to tell a white lie to you there will be no where to hide as you will uncover it.
In a word you are not a pushover.
You know what you want.
And you will not tolerate anything but the truth.
If any of the above sounds like you then that is possibly what he means.
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