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writes:Hi!Me and boyfriend broke up because, he said he wanted space and feel not ready to be in a relationship.It's only been a few days he contacted me again telling me how I was doing.etc. We are still friends and we go out together usually.What I'm confused about is his feelings.. Here it goes. Sorry its so long!He said he wanted me to regain back my happiness and find a new boyfriend. A week later. We went to a party (Tuesday) and he went home like 10:45 and I didn't get home till' 12:00am. I was staying at a friends house actually. I got a miss call( and text) from him and I called him back. He wanted to check if I came home safely but, our calls were cancelled cos' I had no credit. He called me suprisingly at 3:00am while I was asleep. (Thrusday) I asked him why he said to check if I wasn't doing anything meaning if I wasn't sleeping with a other guy before the party cos' I usually wasn't allowed out late as my mum is strict. I presume he didn't sleep that well that night..Also, on that day before he said this I noticed he was upset. I asked his bestfriends and said he's been talking about me and its clear he was upset even though he didn't show it. They think that the fact he still wants me and not let go of me cos' they never see him talk 'open' about his relationship till' he met me. Apprantely, he was upset because, he heard rumours about me going out with a guy and someone saw me kissing him. That's when he got suspcious after the party. He actually known this from last week and didn't tell me the week after it wasn't true that I've been dating someone. He thought I was lying at first but, then it settled.A few hours later he told me he'll support me when I get a new boyfriend??? He's going around in circles and I know he still cares for me but, I don't know if this is treating me as a friend?At the beginning he said he'll be happy I get someone and when he heard rumours I was with someone he was upset and then later he said he'll support me when I get someone?He said were still friends (postitive) and all but.. what? I still love him but, that's not the point to this topic.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes, at first I believe he didn't know what he wanted when we first broke up. But, today he titled to it by speaking out his true feelings. What he reliezed he wanted was that he still wanted to be with me just as his bestfriends told me. So were back in a relationship again but, I figuered I still give him space which means obviously not go out or see him like everyday (not for me anywayz!) so, it will be alright for him to settle at the same time.
Thank-you for you time to reply everyone. Tc xxx
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reader, Dazzerg +, writes (28 March 2008):
 I think he definatly still does have feelings for you and neither of you have closure on this relationship because the feelings are still there. It sounds to me that he didnt really want to let you go but did so out of some mistaken belife it was best for you or him or both. It also sounds like he has serious commitment issues which could be due to a bad past experience?
I think if your feelings are still there and it seems pretty clear to me his are too then you need to take the lead and try and decide where you go from here. I think you are going to have to lay your feelings on the line and see if he will his because i dont think you are going to have much of a friendship if these feelings are not resolved and some closure gained...good luck.:)
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reader, lezlie  +, writes (27 March 2008):
it seems like this guy doesnt know what he wants...its like yeah ok maybe he does want space,hes young and entitled to it..as if he told himself right ill be prepared 4 whatever happens whether she goes off with someone else or whatever..then he thought it happend and realised it did affect him..said it to you..and then probably felt vulnerable,so said he'd support you so he could feel he had the upperhand..
i know that seems far fetched but it just looks like he's unsure of himself and you as a couple..if your willing to give him time then give it to him..but just beware that he might be going behind your back also..if not then its clear deep down he does want to be with you,maybe in his head he just wants to clear it up..maybe let him know that you know hes confused and either tell him youll wait or not..
hope i helped xxx
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