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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I met this guy about a year ago wen I was out and about! I gave him my number and we keep I'm touch! We would text talk on the phone but never hung out! I only seen him that 1 time when I gave him my number... So after a yr of phone conversations we finally made time to hang out! I really enjoyed myself and had a good time..well within that yr we had several conversations about sex! I mean this guy is a bachelor and I was under the impression that he liked being single and living the single lifestyle meaning bringing women back to his place or having diff women around.... So the 2nd time we hung out I went to his place and things were heating up In the bedroom between him and I but I don't think I was ready to have sex with him... Ya In the past b4 we Ever hung out i was definately interested in doing him but after meeting i kinda wanted to wait becuz i began to lik him! I wanted to get to no him moré b4 sex ... so I decided to leave. he didn't seem too upset and I thought he respected my decision but the next day I text him and he was being shady! He was saying that he js wanted to b cool with me and that he didn't want to hang out with me anymore cuz he felt lik I was playing him! That offended me cz I wasn't trying to play with him or his hormones...was I wrong? He never gave me that security that this wouldn't have been a 1 night stand! In his defense he told me that we've been talkin for a yr so y would I think he js wanted sex.... Idk! I really him and idk what to do now! I still want to see if we could possibly begin A relationship bt at this point i think he js wants to b friends cz he feels lik I was playing about all the sexual things we've talked about... I wasn't playing but now that I've actually met him I felt lik we should wait and get to no each other on a diff level. Im s0 confused now that hes upset im thinking maybe that is all he wanted, bt then again we both No thats not a problem for him to get! Please help me! Open my eyes if I'm being nieve
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reader, Capri2  +, writes (4 February 2011):
I find it a little contradictory:
You wrote: "Ya In the past b4 we Ever hung out i was definately interested in doing him but after meeting i kinda wanted to wait becuz i began to lik him!"
And then: "He never gave me that security that this wouldn't have been a 1 night stand!"
At first he was to be a one night stand. And you were willing to have sex with him in those terms. Now you don't have sex with him because you don't want it to be a one night stand.
You are actually playing with him, or you are very selfish.
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