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He said he didn't love me and I was just a "sex thing"

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Question - (9 September 2010) 6 Answers - (Newest, 11 September 2010)
A female United Kingdom age 36-40, anonymous writes:

i have a big promblem ive been seeing a guy im in love with he's been treating me me very very poorly he used me for sex he wanted his friends to make out with me. ive told him lately that i love him he said he doesnt love me and he doesnt have feelings for me and i was just a sex thing. when he told me that i was in pieces. there's times when he is really nice to me but really he blow cold alot. i was playing around with his fone then i accidantly block his fone now he's calling me da worst names under da sun. he said he told his family and friends that ive block his fone so they said to him to stay away from me. they are making out like im a bad person when im not. i cant even get through to him anymore cos of fone. he told me he never wants to see me never again.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2010):

I went out with this guy for a few weeks and through that time he said he was starting to fall for me. the sex wasnt great, i mean he really was crap in bed lol, but i found myself falling for him. sacrificed a lot for him, turned down my ex who now i know is the love of my life but he wont speak to me because of this guy.

this a-hole decided one day to tell me that i was just a replacement for his ex girlfriend and told me to fuck off. i was incredibly hurt and confused and for months punished and tortured myself over him.

then i realised what a dickhead he is.

what have you learned from your experience with him? you dont need to hold onto him, because if somebody treats you that way then that is their own problem. its not about you. and now there is room for some amazing loving incredible guy to come into your life. and until then, learn to love yourself. because it looks like you've been attracted to a damaged guy. as i have in the past. you deserve so much better. and as soon as you see that, you will receive what you deserve.

love and peace sweetie x

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2010):

Why does everyone say this guy used her? Just because he had sex with her without feeling the same way she does?

SHE DID IT WILLINGLY! HE IS TELLING HER THE TRUTH! SHE DOES NOT SAY ANYTHING ABOUT HIM LYING TO HER!

Or does it mean a man has "used" a woman any time she is willing to have sex while she wants a relationship more than he does?

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A male reader, dirtball United States +, writes (9 September 2010):

dirtball agony auntBe glad this asshole is out of your life. What a waste of oxygen. I'm sure you can find a guy who will love you and treat you right. You should never have to deal with jerks like this!

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (9 September 2010):

Honeypie agony auntWhy would you want to see/talk to this creep ever again? The dude USED you, like you were a piece of toilet paper then tossed you when he was done...

Let it go and stop talking to his friends as well. Seems like they are thriving on the drama he created and making your life toxic.

IGNORE the losers. Let him go.

And in the future, please, don't let people treat you like a door mat. No one deserves that.

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A female reader, sarahrose20 Canada +, writes (9 September 2010):

honestly your better off without him he treated you bady and crushed you in the process

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A male reader, Anadin United Kingdom +, writes (9 September 2010):

Anadin agony auntsurely isnt it a good thing that he never wants to see you again?

think about how unhappy he's made you, with all the sex and making out with his friends, take some time out for youself and find a decent bloke who wont solicit youaround his friends!

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