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*razy_daisy
writes:hi there,I am a little confused and I hope you can help me clarify this situation with your responses.Here goes, my boyfirend and I have been going out for almost 9 months now, we are both in our early 30's. He has never had a proper girlfirend up until now, his longest relationship before he met me was 2 months on and off. So on Sat night we both had a bit muh to drink and I brought up some issues, like sometimes he acts like he is still single, i.e he'd call me on Fri night at 7pm to organise plans for the same evening. Even though he has no problems planning trips and othir things for us months in advance, so he is not commitment phobic. So after I brought up the issues his response was that he is just super chilled. So we spoke about other things and we seemed to have resolved the issues that night. Just before we went to bed the same evening he hugged me and said that he loved me, to which I responded O love you more...and this is where my confusion hits, he said that may be I do love him more?!?!? WHat does this mean? Does it mean that he actually doesn't rally love me and he is still in the relationship just because he is too chilled?I am seriously baffled by his response. Please let me know waht you think? Thank you! Reply to this Question
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reader, crazy_daisy +, writes (21 July 2009):
crazy_daisy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi guys,Thank you all very much for your responses! You have helped me see the objective side of things which is quite hard to do when you are in the middle of a situation. I totally agree that we women over-analyse everything and I guess we just need to relax a little.Thanks again for all your responses. You all have been great!!!Best wishes,crazy_daisy x
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reader, Rogerramjet  +, writes (20 July 2009):
I have to agree with JSBach. I have been caught in a similar trap before...Eventually you just have to realize that us guys don't think much, sometimes, before we say something.. Especially if drunk.He probably didn't want to get into that cutesy back-and-forth "I love you more" - "No, i love YOU more"- "No you can't cause i love you most of all!" back and forth thing..I wouldn't lose any sleep over it.
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reader, malibugirl  +, writes (20 July 2009):
Don't make it into a competition, and he only said maybe. There's no point in getting a bit hot under the collar about it.
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reader, JSBach +, writes (20 July 2009):
Maybe it means something, but in all probability it means nothing. Women, please stop analysing every little thing we say! We forget virtually everything that you say within seconds: kindly return the favour.
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reader, Your friend  +, writes (20 July 2009):
 Don't analyse it, he just agreed with you, you do love him more...so?
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (20 July 2009):
 well seems to me like he's saying he does love you but you obviously love him more because you are more into the relationship than maybe he is.
maybe as you've said he's "chilled" out so he says that you love him more because he knows you're more into the relationship than maybe he is.
He sounds a bit crafty to me you may want to rethink the relationship with this guy i mean a guy turning around saying maybe you do love him more is that really someone you want to be with????
everytime you say i love you more he just says "yeah probably right you probably do love me more"
he could just be really big headed and love himself that much and think yeah i can see why she would love me more.
but definately talk to him about this issue don't let this one be buried away.
Hope this helps.
x ilovebowsandcherries x
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reader, Chelle.x +, writes (20 July 2009):
 Hmm thats a tricky situation. Maybe you do love me more ? I would of got up and turned the light on and said "excuse me ?" LOL. Im sure he does love you. Maybe he was too drunk ? Im not actually sure. Have you asked him about it ?x
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