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writes:I hurt Him - in a talk, he got angry..he thinks we better stay as just friends nowHe thought l am not mature enough for a relationship, that it will not work outSo even though it is hard but he only wants to be 'just friends' nowHe doesn't want to meet me at this moment, but if things work themselves out, then l still can still meet him at some pointI apologized and promised that silly things will not happen anymoreI can't make his anger go awayHis reason is he is very very busy now, and because of many other things. l shouldn't meet him now. It will make things more complicated.He wants me to let him do his things 1st,like his financial problems etc before anything else can happen. What is your opinion?...I don't want to just be friendsIs it over? what should I do now?In many articles it teaches us to 'avoid him and let him come back to you'But he is not a teenager...He has not time to play games, he wants a stable lover who he can trust. Then other articles talk about forgiveness..and always try to act good etc Which advice should I follow???Thank you Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2011): l told him to make up v his ex wife n make more female friends in social side..he get very very angry n said l got swim mood n seem like he lost trust v me..n he thought also that l will goes for another man n think he is not good enough or wasting time v him..He thought me n him from differnt world.No..we love each other..he even offer me to marry him..only l think he guess l not serious n keep changing mind..He though its silly !!l dun think l wanna go there just add as friends..l rather dont wanna go.l didnt begg him for anything..but just text to tell him..l honestly will change n thing will never repeat again...etc..u think he still angry about something....about my mood swim n talk that hurt him alots that he keep inside his heart..then is time for him to revange so that l cant go over there to meet him....anyway..l still confusing...he seem so nice..but last minit become so rude..
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2011): he think l talk silly n too jealousy..but l find out he more jealousy than me(even he didnt tell)l abit not trsut him even he told me not to worried of his relationship v other female.Yes,he did love me n l love him..but he though wat l done like keep changing mind's not the realtionship tht he wan.. n ofcos..he thought l wanna change partner n etc.but l guess he already make up his mind after thought about it for few months...n now.now l dont know wat in his mind's after l apologie..he said, if thing solve it themselve out then l can meet him again...(wat thing he talking about??BIz??OR my acting? n he need time to slove his problem there n biz too..SO??? is it a reason only to be busy??or he avoid to see me bcos still angry v me??
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reader, amymuu +, writes (3 March 2011):
Annalisa ,l said l miss him n lov him then 2nd minit l call him to date v other n maybe they r more suitable to him n he thought l talk silly n too jealousy sometimes..bcos i told him to forgive his ex wife n match up..also he thought l wanna dump him n go to another man..(l actually angry when l said that..bcos l saw him still in d dating social side even he already offer me to married him..n also he put d ex gf photo in d bedroom when l also z in that bedroom..his answer is, l not mature..he just sign in n replied g mail. but if l was in d social side he will not happy n get jealous. But why he still in d dating social side if we alrady plan to get married??it made me hard to trust him..even he said if l dun like he will delete d membership...am l too jealousy??he told me he deeply move by me but we r in different world n when the time he in biz trouble he thought its not smart to hv a relationship v somebody from different world n culute n upbringing...(but those actually not a big deal..easy to convert to other ppl culture if we wan to.We do lov each other.he do care for me alots...just he think l too silly sometimes..n he have no time to solve d problem for my believe n upbrining since he is not a young man anynmore..But he like to welcome me again but just as friends..but not in this point when he got enough problem already..n if thing can slove up themselve then l can go to visit him..(l duno also visit him as friends or wat)He do want me to make final decision if l wanna go or not..but l aslo respect him n told him to make a final decision if l can go or not.. At last, he said, NOT now. Even l already bought d ticket..he Seem still angry v me..(he said he thought of it many months about he,me,life n bla bla bla...n l think l upset him.. that is why he dont wanna me come.l asked if he still miss me?he said YEs without 2nd thought. But now l still seem he enter d dating social side once a while..duno what he looking for??So..what u think my next move??
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