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female
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36-40,
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writes:i am in wierd situationi am in an affair from past 2 years but we are not been on any date together from 2 years as my boyfriend stays abroad and nowhe is coming to india .he has a plan to meet but still i am not sure he love me or not because he always forget important dates .he has not wished me on birthday this year and last year too .i mean 2 times my birthday gone but he doesnt wished me and he has no regret for that and he give explaination that he was busy in work and he love me .i am really upset,i am not able to understand he love me or not. most of the time he want to talk about sex but i dont want talk about it.he want me do some physical attachment with him when he wil come to meet me.i am really confused for this as i am doubtful about him.shall i simply meet him on our first date or should come some what closer to him .please let me know.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2010): ~I AGREE~
I admire that you respect and value your body as there are a lot of Easy Lays out don't respect and value their own so they won't respect and value yours.
It is okay if you express an interest in sexual intimacy with another, however DO NOT..I REPEAT UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCE FOLLOW THROUGH PHYSICALLY UNTL THE PARTY PROVIDES STD TEST RESULTS!
Phone and Cyber Sex is okay and will not kill you...BUT contamination from a Loose and Easy STD Carrier can.
God Bless, Komali~
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2010): What an excellent posting by the ' Anonymous female reader' I hope the original poster of the question considers the 'REAL, DIRECT and factual advice of this' Sometimes it's important to receive such advice, as we can become so blinkered with our own feelings and not looking at the real situation as it presents.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2010): He doesn't care about important 'dates' because he doesn't care about you. Your only purpose is to give him free phone sex.... or nowadays... sex chat. Guys used to have to pay women for this service, but thanks to the internet... there are so many folks out there giving it away for free. I can remember a time when phone sex services were advertised... and they charged some pretty high rates... You are the equivalent of phone sex. Hate to say it... this man is using you like a cyber hooker. Unless that's what you want... walk away.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2010): Please forgive for what I'm about to say, but this ' situation' you have got yourself into and kept going is ONLY VIRTUAL. This man is not your boyfriend, as you have never met him, to have a boyfriend you need to have met FIRST, gone on lots of dates and to continue seeing each other for some some time before you can ever consider you are in a relationship or have a boyfriend.
I'm being direct as I want you to see what you've got yourself into - and that is a virtual communication where the guy is LOOKING for you to talk about sex so he can get off on it. That as upsetting it may be, is about the the measure of it.
Of course he will tell you he loves you, then forget dates that are important to you, because this is about HIM and what HE can get from this virtual communication, it's not you or an US, a future as a couple, this is an internet booty call.
I'm not sure why you are not LOOKING for a real relationship, in the real world with a nice chap who will want to date you and do all those things you so crave. Such as remembering your birthday and NOT talking just about sex.
I would urge you to seriously re-think about this connection with this man, as I'm sure IF he comes to see you, he will be expecting to have sex with you, and highly likely to tell you, all those things you want to hear, to enable him to have sex. And as quickly as he arrives he'll be gone, without anything for you to hold on to or look forward to. And my concern is YOU!
You don't mention at all where you ' virtually met ' this man, I wonder if it's from one of the social network sites, a chat room..as these sites are notorious for men and women looking for casual sex mates. NOT everyone, but there is a great deal of it. So please, really think about this, and although I don't like to say don't do something, I'm inclined to say to you DON'T have sex with this man, as you are not in a relationship with him. If you do, I fear you will end up more emotionally hurt than you are now.
Take care,
Jilly
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