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writes:Im about 8 months pregnant and my boyfriend hasnt touched me at all during the pregnancy. At first i would ask him why we're not having sex and his anwser was "i dont want to hurt the baby" even though my doctor has told him its okay, he still wont do it. And when i bring it up he just gets mad. its been about 6 or 7 months and we're at the point now.. where he doesnt even kiss me..at first i thought maybe hes sleeping with someone else...but then i just felt paranoid. I dont know. Has anyone ever been through this?? what did you do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2008): It is very usual behaviour! My daft ex thought the baby's hand would grab him if he got inside, silly sod! Dont worry, try beating him off after you have the child. Relax, blokes are odd things to have.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2008): It is not strange behaviour, I have heard of many women in similar situations. It is sad as often due to hormones women might have a stronger sexual need or desire during pregnancy.
I suggest you appreciate his moral support and try and be affectionate in other ways, holding him, cuddling him. In bed take his hand put it on your belly to feel the baby then gently move his hand down and ask him to stimulate you with his hand to reach orgasm. If he does not want to then try do it yourself and let him watch, it might do it!
Good luck!
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reader, Country Woman  +, writes (8 June 2008):
 Yes I have completely and I was really wanting sex towards the end of my pregnancy, again hormones and the fact that the midwives were saying this could help the birth but my then partner just did not want to hurt the baby as he kept saying.
He had always said to me how attractive he thought pregnant women were but I think as I got bigger he just felt very protective towards me and the baby and nothing I said or the midwives and doctors said made any difference.
I think I had just about talked him round when my daughter was born 2 weeks early and so it no longer became an issue.
However be very aware that you may well not want sex after your baby is born as you will both be tired and dealing with a new baby, cuddles are fine you know and keep talking so that there is no void between you.
Tell him that emotional support will be just as important as the cuddles as this is where sometimes postnatal depression can kick in if you feel like everything is being left to you.
You are not on your own sweetheart and he is there for you but it is very natural what you are experiencing as I went through it to. Not every man is the same but I think you should also appreciate the fact that men who have never been around a pregnant woman feel that having sex would be different for them and he obviously cares and loves you so much that he doesn't want to hurt you in any way so close to the baby being born, just talk to him and I am sure things will work out for you both.
You are not being paranoid but your emotions are very heightened right now so it is not you being unattractive or anything like that just a man who really cares about you is being gentle around you OK.
Take care and here anytime OK.
BFN
Country Woman
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