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writes:dear cupid, this guy i fell in love with i been talk over three years over the phone. he never ask me out all he whats to talk over the phone he tells me his marry and has kids. but hes not marry or has any kids and most of the time he likes to talk to me dirty. sometimes he don't .he tells me like me more then a friend he tells me i'm smart he say he what to sleep with me he been say that over two years but we never did . my family thanks he been hurt by other women that the reason he don't what to date me sometime i think its my looks or my weight or could be both mow he tells me hes moving to another state witch i don't think he is because he a farmer and he loves his farm and animals if he is is because of me.i don't what do say to him to get him ask me out i try ever thing what such i do next i run i deals please help me i don't want to lose him but i'm out of ideas.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (1 February 2016):
 Cease and desist, please, this guy is sooo stringing you along and wasting your time. Unless you are just happy with a voice on the phone for dirty talks.
3 years and you haven't ever met ?
I would take anything he says with a pinch of salt.
Same as he told you he is married with children then turns out he is not..... ( btw- if that's the truth, that he is NOT married, that's a dead giveaway that he wanted nothing serious and nothing real with you ! Why in the world a single guy should say he is married - which still is something to curb the enthusiasm in many ,if not most, women - unless he wants to be sure you won't " get any ideas " and will keep things strictly as casual, occasional fun ) then he told you he is a farmer , and that he is moving...
The fact is, you have no idea what he is or does. Maybe he is not a farmer at all, and he is moving indeed . Or maybe he IS a farmer and can't move, and in this case he is telling you another big whopper because.... ?
Are you happy of being taken for a ride by a consummate liar ? Since you have already caught him blatantly fiddling with the truth , why do you assume that when he says that he likes you and and wants to sleep with you blah blah,- well, why THIS has to be the truth ?.... Could not it be simply a ruse to keep the phone sex and dirty talks coming ?...
I see it worked, 3 years of empty promises and dirty words, and you "fell in love " and don't want to lose him.
Why ? Th moment you lose him, in fact the moment you ditch him like the bad habit that he is, is the moment you can find a real person to like your for real and have true feelings for you, in person and IRL. Or, if all you want now is a sex buddy and partner-in-crime, even easier ! I bet it would take you zero time to find a man who wants to make love in person, with actual body contact, and not just masturbating over the phone .
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (1 February 2016):
 If he hasn't made a move in 3 years, you can ask till you are blue in the face - he is NOT going to ask you out.
So if I were you I'd cut out the flirting and the sexy talk and treat him like a friend only. Look elsewhere for a BF/partner. HE isn't it. He is full of manure.
If a woman hurt him in the past, it's till not an excuse to lie to you and string you along.
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