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*resangeli
writes:I have been married for 9 years. Had a baby about a month ago. This is our second child. We've had problems before just like any other couple. But he had some self esteem and insecurities too. But he was never open about it and just kept it to himself. He has been cold with me for a while. Then he just talked to me recently and said he needs space. He also said that everything just accumulated and he can't control what he's feeling. And for some reason, his love was lessened. He did not mention divorce. But when I asked him is this is longterm or not, he said he doesn't know. Did he really mean it wen he said he doesn't love me anymore? Is this hopeless case? Does it look like he's letting go or running away from responsibility?
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (12 April 2009):
I don't think there are any answers to your questions because I don't think he knows any of this stuff himself.
You have a right to be very angry with him though. How dare he risk your whole relationship and let you have another child by just letting all this build and lie and say it's all fine till it's too late.
Tell him to go and have his space and when he realises what he's throwing away he's welcome to come back and see if you'll forgive him.
Of course you may have found another man by that time but that's what he's willing to risk by refusing to talk about all this so he can bugger off and do it.
Good Luck!! xx
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