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writes:Me and my boyfriend have been together for nearly 9 months now and no matter how pathetic this sounds I admit I have fallen in love with him..We rarely argue but recently we have started to have problems. Last week everything was perfect and we were seeing each other a lot and meeting up and he kept telling me how much he loved me and that he felt this was going to last for a while etc. We met up on the Saturday and everything was fine. On Sunday morning he was acting a bit weird in his texts (I know a bad way to find out these things!) and he said he woke up feeling confused and he needed to figure out what he wants. I was really shocked and upset but I left him to think and he later on that day said that he was being stupid and that he couldn't end it with me because I meant too much to him. Everything gradually went back to normal but a few days later the same thing happened and he said that he needed to realise how much he liked me! So we met up and I ended up crying in front of him and telling him how I felt and we sat there just hugging for ages in silence and he turned round to me and said he loved me too much to let me go. I didn't know what to believe and we decided to forget about it but now I am getting paranoid about everything and I am worried the same thing is going to happen, I mean I know relationships have ups and downs but this was twice in a week! He means a lot to me and I can't bear to lose him, what the hell is he thinking? I just don't know whats going on I'm so confused!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2009): unfortunately, no one ever knows what boys are really thinking lol but ive been together with my boyfriend now for almost 2 years. about 6 months ago we were hanging out at his friends house kissing and stuff and he randomly out of no where goes i need to talk to you about something. I didnt see it coming at all, just like your relationship ours was perfectly fine. I felt sick just at the sound of those words i broke down and couldn't even speak- he started to cry too and we just hugged for a long time. He felt miserable for making me cry. anyway what he eventually basically ended up saying was that he wasnt sure if he wanted to b in a relationship with me n e more and i couldnt handle that. About a month went by and we stayed really close friends, we talked and i kept asking if he made up his mind yet and we wud hug in school and there would be so much sexual tension it was crazy. one day we went out to lunch just as "friends" and ended up going back to his house- after a half a day of complete sexual torture we ended up making out and a few long agonizing heart wrenching weeks later he told me he wanted to try it again- hes in college now and the same thing happened when he left but we just cant be over. We love each other way too much no matter how often we fight - when one of us needs someone or something that feeling that we give is unreal. So what im trying to do by telling u my story is let u know that guys do that sometimes...they listen to their friends and get confused but you need to remind him that his friends don't know what you guys have when your alone. It sounds like hes mad confused and that's probably gonna lead to a lot of tears on your end. Just stay strong and stay hopeful, if you want something bad enough you will get it.the months of crying that i went through were worth it...although the worst days i can remember...i still think that everything was worth it.
good luckk!!!!
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reader, OSCARS MUMMY +, writes (18 April 2009):
 never mind what the hell is he thinking, who the hell does he think he is??? Yes you love him but he (in my opinion) has treated you like crap, you cant be mad on someone one minute and then not sure the next??? and its terrible that he has made you get so upset... everyone is allowed a little wobble at first but that was too up and down for my liking. You i guess will have to speak to him and level with him, dont get mad at him but just explain how it left you shellshocked and you are left in a bit of a daze.. with no pressure that you dont want to be let down again and that if he is having doubts that maybe you should have a break?? This is your relationship too dont let him pull all the strings.
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