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writes:I went out with my boyfriend for 2 years, and then we broke up for 9 months, and have started seeing each other again for the past 4 months. I am very frustrated at the fact that he hides our relationship from his family. For example, he would lie to his family when he comes and sees me, and he never invites me over. His family knew about us while we were together before, and I used to join them for dinner all the time, but now he just wont tell them that he is seeing me again. I know his mom wasn't particularly fond with me, but she didn't hate me either.I feel so frustrated and sad. I feel like he is ashamed of me, that he is not taking us seriously, and in a way, I'm just this girl he has on the side. I feel that he is not planning to let his family know about us anytime soon, and this makes me feel like I'm wasting my time.What does all this mean? Am I just being too sensitive?
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (21 April 2008):
 The best thing to do is the hear from the lion's mouth.
If you are unhappy and you need to know why,
then you need to communicate with him
Ask him whats the problem?
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reader, BigSis  +, writes (21 April 2008):
 How did your relationship end the first time round? Was it amicable or was it a bitter break up?
Perhaps he told them a little too much about your break up, and they all told him that he was better off without you, and he probably now feels like he'll get a proper 'ear bashing' if they find out you're together again.
Give it some time, hopefully he can win them round again (if that is the case).
Why don't you sit him down and talk to him about it, ask him what his problem is. Just be up front about it and tell him it's causing some friction between you two and it's upsetting you.
Mothers take time to approve of whom their beloved son's date, in their eyes no woman is good enough for them.
Unless you tell him exactly how you feel ~ he may never realise it's worrying you....and if you think you are being sensititve ~ then that's perfectly understandable, I would probably feel the same.
Best of luck, and have it out with him soon.
BigSis xXx
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reader, gabriel Alam  +, writes (21 April 2008):
 hi i'm gabe hope u'll like my answer.
i read ur msg and though it contains more felings than facts i'll try to understand ur situation. 2 years= strong love??? but hidingf u leads to 2 diffrent ways:
1- he's just afraid to be separated from u again and this time he'll face a doubled pressure than what he got last time u broke up especially if his mom is involved. lok parents are so afraid on their children the don't realize they r adults now and thisa is what we all gonna do but if his family hates than his reaction is totally normal u don't need to be scared at least not now. wait for a while then convince him slowly that ur a part of his life too and if u r his real love as he says then he should present u to his family as he did before. but this time slowly. trust me truth always work u should face him with ur felings on both sides ok. u might loose him but u'll know then the truth and not just sinking in lies.
2- he's just passing time. and in this case u need to leave the building right now! cz when a guy is bored from a girl no love can face that u ned to show him ur value! stand up girl and show some dignity trustr me if he loves you he'll fomllow you. my advicwe to you is to give him his freedom after u tell him all what's in ur heart. if he came back this means he trully love you but if he didn't that means he wasn't for u from the biginning. trust me love can bare harder shocks........... hope u liked my critics gabe byyyyyyyyy
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