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writes:Hey guys, i am going out with my boyfriend for 3 months now and mad about him. I lost my virginity to him and i dont regret it for one minute. The thing is that he is way more experienced in bed than me and i dont think i am satisfying him. He does it for me in every way but last night i gave him a blow job and he didnt say it was good or bad. He didnt come so obviously it wasnt great and he said i kinda bit him. How can i explain to him that i really want to pleasure him and drive him wild like he does to me? Ive asked him what he likes and ive done it. Also any tips on fool proof ways to satisfy guys? I just want him to find me really good in bed and be the girl who can turn him on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2008): First, your eagerness to satisfy him, and to perform, should give him chills, oops, that may have been the teeth.
Don't be quick to rush in, take your time and find a time to talk about these things. I'm sure he knows it takes time to get comfortable. He may not say anything for fear of pushing you away. When you do something new, it will feel awkward at first. Keep the teeth away from the head part (very sensitive spot, like the clitorus). Wanting his body sends messages to his brain that makes him feel so close to you, this is very good.
Just take your time. Even if you start slow and finish slow, he will enjoy the contact and sensation from it. The faster you go in giving head to a guy, the more nervous you can make him (the sensitivity, and the stories of a man getting heading while driving, an accident occurs, and she bites off his penis: no more sex after that). So go slowly, non-wrecklessly, constant slow speed and you'll do fine. Also play (caress-don't squeeze) his testicles, adds to the extroadinary sensation of touch. I'll stop, I feel my blood temp and pressure rising: oops ;)
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify  +, writes (18 May 2008):
 he isn't going to behave like a woman having an orgasm, and frankly talking in bed unless there is a major problem (or someone needs direction-lack of inniatiative i class as major problem) is a bit of a wrong time and place scenario. blowjobs are relaxing and unless you learn great proficiency (which having had many enjoyable blowjobs) he probably wont come.
out of good blowjobs only about 1 in 15 are so very good and flukey that they make me cum quickly.
when i get a good blowjob i chill out and relax not moan like someone in labour
being all worried about performance and questioning things is likely to introduce an element of insecurity that he may not have felt before and distress him.
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reader, love girl  +, writes (18 May 2008):
 i was just like you , i didnt know what to do , and how to do it , and it was till just recently that i did it right
wel what is did is that durintg bed , when ever i did something for him i used to ask him if it was good or not and he would tell me , if he liked it i would go on and if he didnt he would tell me how to do it
first i thought thta i would look stupid but i didnt because he knows that this is new for me and ofcoure he was the same when it was his first time , it took me months to know but nowi do it right
good luck
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reader, Fiona xxx +, writes (18 May 2008):
 Let me think...
I am not sure if guys really say much, so you can assume all is well. I might say "Did you enjoy that?" and I get a "yea". So just ask. He will be turned on, otherwise you won't be having sex.
If it feels good for you, then it will feel good for him - is a guide I go off.
It is tricky for your first lover, as you have nothing to compare to, but I recon, you are worrying too much.
Just go with the flow. Chances are you are doing things becuase that is how he likes it or wants in terms of positions.
More importantly, do you enjoy? Feel satisfied?
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