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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:We are dating for 6 years, Having a Nice and strong relationship.He loves me very much there is no confusion is this. Now my parents are after my life, they have a marriage proposal for me now. When I talked about this to him he said go and marry to that boy. Reason he has for his, he is confused, he is not ready to marry now, he thinks i will be more happy with that guy than him coz he is verryy Short temper.He wants that we will remain as Friends forever. He thinks marriage is not on her cards now. But this decision is very painful for me, i can not imagine myself without him. I am ready to wait for more time but he is not sure about future as weell. Now he is not even attending my calls, replying to my mails.Help MeIts not possible for me to marry someone else. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2008): hello
you are in a very difficult situation. you are going through a hard time and you need to stop for a moment and think. Do not get emotional, spend time on your own and think about what you really want. your boyfriend is not ready to get married to you-but will he ever be ready? ...
you're parents are expecting you to get married soon (im indian too, i understand how some indian parents can be)if your boyfriend is never going to marry u- youre parents would never accept your relationship.
this marriage proposal? have you met the man? have u gotten to know him? what is this man like? - why dont you find out who you parents want you to meet?
it must be very hard for you. 6 years is a long time and you both care for each other- but my friend a whole life time waiting for someone to marry you is even more long.
if your boyfriend cared for you so much he would have married you- what is stopping him?
at the end of the day, you cannot force somebody to marry you, and nobody should force you to marry anybody you do not wish to marry - you must be very heartbroken and i am sorry that you are in this situation- maybe you should take a break from your boyfriend (like a month) do not contact him and make him miss you and see how he feels after you ignored him abit? ... youre parents always want the best for you-so give them a chance...
please do not do anything silly cuz your boyfriend and family love you and want the best for you-
love and god bless
friend x
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