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36-40,
anonymous
writes:A few months ago i told this male acquaintance that i liked him. He was nice and said, he could only see us as good friends. Fine, ok i moved on and focused on work and other friends and meeting other guys. Meantime my crush and i are spending time together, hanging out goofing off. We get to know each other and spill secrets. He tells me he loves me all the time, he insists on kissing hello/goodbye...he pulls me onto his lap to cuddle, and i would totally be thrilled about this, except afterwards he's all" i love you like a friend, don't get any ideas"I'm hurt and confused and avoid him...and also tell him how he's playing with my head.,and that he hould stop, but than he says we are bffs, ugh!!!!!!!!! He is a really nice fun guy, and my family and friends adore him. It would be hard to erradicate him from my life.i have no interest in dating right now because my insides are all tangled up in him.He is single..and sometimes i get vibes that he likes me more than a friend, but he denies it.Please help me...find a way to get over him.
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reader, smile(: +, writes (25 August 2010):
Draw lines, he cannot cuddle with you or kiss like he loves you as more than a friend and maintain you are not more IF ONLY BECAUSE it is messing with you! I say draw the line, treat me completely like a platonic friend (you have to hold to this! even if you like him and would like more), or make me your girlfriend. See which side he stands on, make it black and white. Don't let him mess around in the middle.That he is messing with you like this and knows it, I find to be mean. People who act nice and are mean are the most dangerous, be careful. That he is able to tangle you up inside means you need to be even more careful. "He is a really nice fun guy, and my family and friends adore him. *It would be hard to eradicate him from my life*." That you are tangled up inside is reason enough to eradicate him from your life, tell your family that. I hope this impression that it would be too hard to remove him from your life does not come from him. If it does that is strike three in my book for being a psychopath; in which case I would say sever all connection to him, ignore any contact he tries to create (complete cold shoulder). You can always play the "I can't take it anymore!" card to friends and family.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2010): You should tell him what he's doing and that he needs to stop because you're a girl and easily confused by actions like these. But it sounds like you kinda do like the attention he gives you and you don't want to get him to stop. Okay, sorry if I'm wrong. If I am, then go. Tell him that he needs to stop all these things, you're not just another doll, you have feelings and emotions and he's making it hard on you (to get him out of your brain, if you're brave enough to add that part). Just tell him you believe stuff like that should be done between couples and you're not a couple so it's really uncomfortable.
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