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writes:I am a 17 year old girl and have being in a relationship for about 7 months the only problem is he is 20 years older than me and he is also my line manager. We havn't told my parents about us yet and i want to as i am sick of walking and sneaking around. He says he wants to tell them but we never do he always backs out because he is scared of what they will say, its driving me crazy what do i do?? Reply to this Question
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reader, aunty t  +, writes (8 March 2007):
 I can understand that you are both scared of your parents reaction. Are you sure it is wise doing it this way. You know your parents how are they going to react? Would you not be better having a chat with your parents and letting them get used to the idea. They can say exactly what they feel in front of you but if you introduce your boyfriend to them the shock may to too much and it may turn nasty. Twenty years is a big gap but you are obviously very fond of each other if you have been going together for 7 months. He is also your boss and they may feel that he took advantage of you. I think you need to work your parents around to you way of thinking and let them get used to the idea. Would you not feel better if they welcomed him into your family instead of throwing him out.
Let me know how you get on
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reader, Farris +, writes (7 March 2007):
 I understand that the situation is tricky and awkward for both of you, but you really should put your foot down. You MUST tell your parents. The fact that you have been together as long as you have shows that it's serious, and the fact that you want to tell your parents shows that you're committed.
These are both wonderful things, and you need to let your partner know them. Try to help him understand that he means a lot to you, and that's why you want to make it official.
At the end of the day, you have to be firm with him and say that you don't want to be a secret forever, and that what you have together is really important to you.
Ask him if he wants that too, and if he doesn't... Then you have to question whether you're okay with that.
Good luck.
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