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writes:My partner has slept with over 100 women before he met me, most of them unprotected. I think he must have children somewhere but he claims he doesn't. How can he possibly know this? I know this is a bit crazy and they'd never be able to find him anyway but what does everyone think? Can you go round for 10 years and have unprotected sex with strangers and not one of them get pregnant?p.s. he has been checked for STD's and knows about the one he has, so we're very careful.
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reader, CC620 +, writes (14 September 2006):
Why in the world would you date a guy thats been with so many women anyway????????????? whether he has children or not is far less important than if he has HIV...... Dont ya think??????????
-Chris
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reader, helpful girl +, writes (14 September 2006):
 it is actually quite possible not to have children when you sleep around even for that long youll be suprised how may things prevent pregnancy e.g the pill the morning after pill and many other things theres also a chance that if a girl did get pregnant off him misscarages,abortions also you never know but who he has slept with are proberly unable to have children. but the truth will come out adventually if he has any children. also just courious stupid questions but have you asked him if his had a versetermy? there is a possibilitie just thinking cus my fellers had a versetermy and his also slept with over 100 girls.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2006): I posted the possible numbers in response to someone inferring that it was improbable.
All the more reason to double bag it!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2006): It really doesn't matter how many strangers he slept with unprotected. It only takes one time. All the averages and figures in the world mean nothing. YES, he could be a father and not know it. So what? So could I. So could a large number of men.I don't think that's the real issue here. What you need to do is ask yourself why it bothers you so much. If you do that, you'll probably get to the root of the real reason you're posting here and what's really wrong in your relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2006): Well lets see...
When did he become sexually active?
Lets say 17.
Lets say he slept with a girl every month...that's 12 in a year. Lets say he did this for three years.
That would be 36.
Do we want to do the lets say it was a different girl every week for a year? That would be 48 to 54 depending on the year and if it is a leap year.
Lets say that when he was older, he started having one night stand over the weekend after meeting them in bars/clubs. Lets say it was a different girl every night.
That's 3 for every four weeks which would make it a montly total of 12. So that is 144 women a year.
It is quite possible that people can sleep with that many people especially when alcohol is introduce; it tends to loosen people's morals/standards as it is an inhibitor.
Scary to contemplate.
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reader, martini  +, writes (8 September 2006):
 Possibly infertile?
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reader, bonym +, writes (8 September 2006):
 Its amazing how small numbers can somehow mysteriously transform into 3 digit figures, like Irish49 said, I bet this figure is not even accurate. Saying you have slept with 100 women seems to be the standard number for most men but its just based on pure averages. I dont know how old your man is but I heard a guy one say and he is 46 that he has slept with around 100 women since losing his v plates at 17. He said if on average he slept with 3 girls per year over 29 years that would equate to 87 and he says that maybe in a year he slept with less, other years more etc, but depending on how old he is, I am not necessarily sure its true as it is purely guess work. If he has slept with 100 women over 10 years that equates to 10 per year on average and maybe thats true, maybe its a lie. If he has slept with a lot of women unprotected it is likely he has fathered children somewhere, so he has no real way of knowing if he is a father or not. Either way, please be careful and ensure he is STD free. Take care. xXx
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2006): When did he tell you that number, before or after he was intimate with you?
He could just be estimating the number as he was probably like most young men and women of today; going to bars and getting drunk and having one night stands.
It could be that he feels it was that irresponsible that he could have been with countless women.
About the pregnancy thing; it is possible and probable that he has a child somewhere due to the fact he had unportected sex numerous times with numerous women who may not have been on the pill.
Is it worth worrying about something such as this? Why are you stuck on wondering if he has a child or not; what does this do to you?
What is the real concern?
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reader, Dr Pete + ♥, writes (8 September 2006):
 It's possible that he doesn't have any children but he isn't really in any position to know this. How would he?
You say they will never be able to find him. I'm not so sure? In 20 years time when these children are adults I'm sure it will be quite possible to trace your biological parents using DNA much easier than it is now.
I also agree with Irish though - he could have made this number up.
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reader, Irish49 + ♥, writes (7 September 2006):
 It's quite possible he was just a very, very lucky man, hun. But quite frankly dear..I knew a guy once (didn't date him), who told me he slept with hundreds of ladies. I honestly thought he was full of bullcrap. I was right..it finally came out, he slept with 11 women, not hundreds. Are you sure he's telling you the truth and why is he even 'quoting' a number? I question a man's maturity and sincerity when his self-esteem is so low and his ego, so large that he has to quote numbers to his gf. Don't you wonder why he's doing this? He's could be playing the 'jealousy' game with you. Just make sure he is clean and continue practising safe sex whether or not he wants to do it, unprotected or not. In other words...look after yourself. Good luck!
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