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anonymous
writes:I see a bloke every week where he works. A couple of months ago, I noticed him looking at me.(staring). He does this every week and when he's talking to his work mate, he continues to stare at me. I think he likes me. I asked him a question regarding the items which they have a couple of weeks ago, and he answered no. I wanted to say something else to him, but it didn't work out like that. He still stares at me, but it seems he is trying to avoid another situation of talking to me. Do you think he could be shy as he does look on the quiet side. I do like him, but I am quite shy too. Could you please give me some advice. Thank you.I have just found out he has a girlfriend who works at the same place. So why does he keep looking at me. Please tell me what to do. I get butterflies everytime I see him. HELP!
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reader, Ask oldersister  +, writes (2 April 2008):
 Most likely, he finds you attractive but he doesn't want conversation with you because that's all it is- an attraction. He has a girlfriend already and maybe he doesn't want to cheat on her. If you pursue this, he may not want a relationship with you because of your character-
flirting with a guy that already has a girlfriend, what does that say about you? It can be a big ego booster to have someone attracted to you but keep things in perspective. If he doesn't love his current girlfriend, he'll break up this her. Until then, keep your fantasies in the proper perspective and don't ruin your reputation.
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reader, meggiej +, writes (2 April 2008):
 He is either looking at you because you are looking at him, or he likes you better than his girlfriend (because you say he might be shy for talking to you, he might be shy for splitting up with his girlfriend).
Look at him with the corner of your eye + if he is staring at you then flirt with him, this way he wil notice + know that you like him. So then he might want to talk to you.
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reader, allenrobin +, writes (2 April 2008):
 Maybe he keeps looking at you because you are looking at him!
It dosn't really matter which one of you is really doing the flirting. What it comes down to is this. I am doing this from your side because he is not here. Are you the type of female to flirt around with an attached male?
Before you jump this wagon remember you, him, and her all work at the same place. You will have to see them both at work. No matter how it happens she will (and rightfully so) confront you, or him, or even both of you. Will it happen at work? Will one, or all of you get fired? Is it a good job? Is it worth losing whatever you have gained from this job? Is it worth a reputation that is inevitably going to be dropped on your head?????
Think long and hard before you decide what to do because most women will physically fight to keep what they perceive as theirs, and if he has a girlfriend then in my book he is hers!
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