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female
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26-29,
anonymous
writes:Hi, i was with this boy for around a year and a bit, when i discovered that he had had sex with another girl. I was devastated and he was heartbroken that i had found out and that i was hurting inside. he tried everything he could to make things better but it didnt work out, and i finished it. Its been about 3 months since then and i have been out with a boy and he went out with a girl. however we both admitted it was a rebound relationship, and while i was out with the boy first he felt jealous and asked out this girl. We have since then both finished with these people because we had no feelings for them. we both admit that we still love each other, but should i move on? will he hurt me again? please help! thanks
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reader, Sakuchanz  +, writes (5 May 2010):
If he cheated once he'll cheat again.Don't give him the time of day.
Especially since he was heartbroken that YOU FOUND OUT. It wasn't a kiss either it was sex: the ultimate act of physical intimacy between two people.
It's better to move on and hold out for someone who won't betray your trust.
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reader, RSLMJ4E +, writes (4 May 2010):
 all i can say is once a cheater, always a cheater.
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2010): Will he hurt you again? I'd put money on it! Find someone who won't hurt you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2010): every one makes mistakes. If you really love him and he knows he messed up then give him a 2nd chanse. My cuzins husbend of 5 years cheated on her 1 time in high school. They started dateing in the 9th grade. He had sex with another girl about a year laiter. once they broke up b cuz of it he all but got on his hands and knees and beged her back over the next year. The point is they got back 2gether and havent broke up since. he practicaly worships the ground she walks on and they have been hapily mairyed 4 the past 5 years.
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reader, advice angel +, writes (4 May 2010):
 my reply to this is
"if he can do it once he'll do it again."
thats probably not what you want to hear but if he loved you why would he have sex with another girl in the first place?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2010): The fact you said "he was heartbroken that i had found out".... says it all.
He was sad that you found out... He wasn't sad that he did this horrible thing to you.
Being cheated on it one of the most horrible and hard things. I know how you feel and I'm really sad for you.
The question is... Do you think you could trust him? Especially if he wasn't really sad about that act itself.. Only getting caught. Could you ever feel comfortable with him again?
I'm guessing not.... I think if you got back with him, even if he didn't cheat on you again... This relationship would still cause more harm than good, and hurt you.
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reader, IHateWomanBeaters +, writes (4 May 2010):
 When you say he was with another girl, do you mean he dated a girl before you?
In that case, I say get over it and if you want to date him then date him.
However, if he cheated on you, then do not date him.
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