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writes: my partner of 5years and a brillant and trusting relationship went out got drunk with his friends and ended up paying for sex in a brothel. he is sorry and knows how much hurt hes caused. am i being stronge by working at the relationship as i love him or am i being stupid
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reader, beentheredonethat +, writes (12 October 2006):
 Well....he was drunk and relying on his looser buds to protect him from screwing himself...or in his case...paying to screw himself. They let him down...he let you down. I would totally not make a big deal of this. He did not plan it...lie about it or carry it on behind your back for three years. I bet its a LONG time before he goes drinking with those friends again.....they really were not very good friends if they treated him like that...thinking it was funny to cause you pain. Forgive him and Don't punish him forever....it was a brain fart. a really embarrassing one for him....yet he fessed right up....knowing you were going to be ticked. good for him.
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reader, helpful girl  +, writes (11 October 2006):
 no your not being stupid, working at a ralationship is the best ever! but if his honestly sorry then keep on working at it, in time youll learn to trust him again and he wont let you down again as he realises how much hurt he did course you. you may also find he will cut down on going out with his freinds too. but i beleive in every body deserves a second chance, but if he does it again then maybe splitting would be best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2006): well do u love him? does he sound sincere? have u lost all trust in ur man? if u want to stay with him then his behaviour is going to have change, he is going to have to prove himself to u that he truly wants to stay with u and this will never happen again. he put himself in a very vulnerable position where he can cheat and now u both need to make sure this is not going to happen by any means necessary. what is he willing to do? will he quit drinking? its all about u and him and what u both want and what u both are going to do to work things out. ur not stupid for staying. but if he cheats again and u still stay than that would be stupid.
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