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writes:Hi any and everybody... here is the deal... I've been seeing this guy, I'm in love but I can't tell if he is... he hasn't told me but when I'm around I can feel it... my biggest problem is I want a baby, he talks about it..."we gonna make a baby" "I don't wanna wear condoms" "this is how you gonna end up pregnant"... I don't know what to do, because in reality THAT'S WHAT I WANT!!! My mind is gone and he gives mixed signals about wanting one... I guess its time to...........
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (25 May 2011):
I agree with CindyCares.
This isn't a sign at all of anything. He could be stringing you along, he could be attempting to trap you, he could just be plain bullshitting you.
Having a baby is a serious, life changing moment. And you need to be sure that you're with the right guy. The right guy is someone who offers security, commitment, maturity and is open to actual, serious conversation.
the wrong guy is the one who sits there saying "I don't wanna wear condoms!", or "This is how you're gonna end up pregnant". That's not mature.
Get on the pill, as suggested, and talk to him seriously about what he wants from his life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2011): When a man really wants a baby the signals WILL NOT be mixed. Assume he does not want one at this point.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (25 May 2011):
 It's time to go on the pill, because I notice that while this guy occasionally mentions making a baby, he says absolutely nothing about committing to you, sticking around, helping materially and morally to raise your kid, and being a good, present, loving father figure for the rest of his life.
Therefore, unless you are actually very serious and enthusiastic about becoming a single mother, and financially and psychologically fit to raise a kid on your own, don't go to the OB/GYN : RUN !
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