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writes:i have been with him 8 years. he claims he loves me but i refuse to marry him because he has a big ego and has to be 'the one in the limelight 24/7 and he's always right'.he cannot pass a woman without flirting and gets mad if i say anything. he buys me anything i want and treats me well other times. i am unhappy and close to having an affair, should i stay or should i go?
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reader, Tanyas247  +, writes (31 January 2007):
 Women should never settle. This guy sounds like he's in love with himself, which leaves little room for anyone else. If you're not thinking longterm with positivity, get out now while you're young. We should always have at least half the spotlight in a relationship.
Also, the fact that he buys you anything you want is unhealthy. As if he's trying to buy your attention and love. I'd even go as far as to guess there's an underlying insecurity in him. Why else would anyone try so hard?
Best of Luck
Tanya
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2007): Hi There,
I'm also in the smae age bracket and married 30 years. The things that draw you to a person can also be the thing that drives you crazy after marriage. You have thrown up a lot of red flags. Is he abusive? Are the gifts apologies after fights? The fact that you are thinking of having an affair and refuse to marry becouse of your issues is pretty glaring. Ann Landers says ask yourself am I better off with him or without him. You seem pretty unhappy from the short letter that you wrote. Maybe you should listen to yourself.
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reader, staceii12x07 +, writes (31 January 2007):
Tell him your unhappy and if he doesn't even listen to what you have to say or care about how you feel then he is no good.
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