He doesn't want to give up his party ways for me!

A female age 30-35, *ichelle08 writes:

I'm going to make my best effort to make a long story short... My boyfiend (21) and I (20) had been together for three years. Everything seemed to be going well..however, once he turned 21 he started wanting to go out and party with his friends. In other words, he's currently going through the famous "party stage". About two months ago, he broke up with me because he said things weren't the same and did not want to feel tied down. That same week we broke up, he began talking to a girl he met while partying. Eventually they became bf and gf. Found out they had sex in less than a month...yet, he was still keeping touch with me and wanting to spend time with me. Sadly, I fell for his game and agreed to spend time with him because i was very much in love with him. When i finally realized i didn't want to be the simply the "other one", i decided to confront him. Told him to choose between me or her. He told me the girl meant nothing to him and that he'd break up with her. Now, we decided to give our relationship one last chance... However, I'm worried. He confessed to me that I'm the one he sees himself with in the future. The one he wants to come home to and spend the rest of his life with, he was actually thinking of buying me a ring and ask me to be his wife.... BUT .... it seems that he doesn't want to give up his party life. What do i do?? I can't believe he's willing to risk losing me (the person he sees as his wife) over partying. I feel like i can't move on with my life because i'm holding on to him because i'm afraid of losing him :(

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