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writes:my boyfriend have been together for nearly a year now, and the last month he has slowly stopped making time to see me on the weekends, he usually makes time to see me on friday and saturday nights. but this has changed as now he has got plans to see friends and go to parties etc. and he tells me to see him during the day or on a sunday. ive noticed lately his friends have bothered him about him making excuses not to go out with them and i understand he has to make up time to hang out with them. i know for sure he isnt seeing anyone else but my feelings are hurt when he doesnt want to go out with me at night. he never invite me out when he goes to bars. i dont drink and he does. he says he might be going on on friday but isnt sure. if he asks me to go out with him should i say yes? or would that make me look too available? Reply to this Question
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reader, purple_butterfly  +, writes (6 May 2010):
I would say : say no.Don't act available. And don't sound like you need him to hang out with you. Act like you don't care. The more you act like it really doesnt matter to you and you care a lil less, he will come along. Distract yourself with other things for a while.Do this for a few weeks. (Trust me, it always works)And even after a few weeks, hes acting the same. Thats not kool then. You might wish to rethink about the relationship because you 2 are in a relationship not just for him to be happy. And do not compromise with that for any guy.
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reader, ilovedannyjones  +, writes (6 May 2010):
 Hi Princess166,
Well, relationship gets complicated at times. If he doesn't want to hang out with you much, then call him and ask what his problem is or what is bothering him? That is what I always do. :) And if you suspect him, then just express your feeling to him and tell him how you feel and that how much you love him. I know it hurts a lot when your boyfriend doesn't really talk to you much and keeps on hurting you. Because that's what is happening to me right now, my boyfriend gets mad at me for simple things. Anyways, You could also tell his friends about your problem. They might help you out. But remember to always think positive. Do not let your relationship suck! If he asks you to go out with him, just think for a while and tell him how you felt when he didn't hang out with you. The best idea is that, FIRST SAY NO TO HIM and see his reaction. If he says "Okay" that means he is not interested and if he says "WHY" then it means that he still misses you a lot and really wants you to go out with him.
I hope my advices work. :)
xoxo
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